DH secretive with his phone

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DH has always been this way, but it really bothers me!
He has it password protected, and will not tell me it.
He won't even let me hold it when he is showing me something on the screen.
He takes it to the loo with him, keeps it face down so can't see the screen too.
He is the same with his laptop. He gave me his old laptop, and he emptied the search history first (I know this as it was on the page to clear history when he gave it to me)

He has never cheated, but I hate being shut out of a part of his life like this.
I asked him one night if I could look through his phone and he went off to sleep in the spare room on a huff!

I don't mind him going on my phone or knowing my passwords on the other hand.

Is this normal behaviour? Should I let it go?

I hold the phone to show my DP things but it doesn't mean I'm hiding anything. My phone is my phone with texts from friends, things she wouldn't understand/approve of even though I'm in my 50's. some people are very good at adding 2+2 and always coming up with 5

All these posters saying their phone is private but they have nothing to hide??!

I don't believe them.
I get you'd be annoyed/ upset that dp is checking up whether you are having an affair but if they can't even use yr phone to look up something quickly/ check txt from dc etc - that would make me suspicious

I have the iPhone 6 too with fingerprint ID but my DP knows the password, and is welcome to use my phone whenever as he doesn't use a mobile himself (very rare these days I know) but he asks first. Even though I have nothing to hide I do get anxious when he's on it and want to snatch it back like a PP said. No idea why
So some people are very private over their phones, but in your case it does sound like he is hiding something (just my opinion)

Going off to bed in a huff and getting so defensive over his phone is not normal, neither is being so secretive about his password-yes we all need privacy and you don't need to tell your partner your password but being so funny about it is also odd IMO

I'm sorry to say I have experience in all the signs you listed and they were cheating, gut instincts are rarely wrong

I honestly have nothing untoward to hide at all. But my phone is an extension of myself (sadly these days) it carries so much of me with it, photos, stuff from friends, my Facebook, my Twitter, my MN etc. Its up to me to say who gets to touch it and who doesn't. I don't have a password I just trust my DP to trust me.

The OP says he has always been this way and never cheated. I think she needs to accept that his phone is private or leave. She knew how he felt about his phone from the start, nothing has changed. I'd be in a huff if my DH asked to look through my phone because he didn't trust me too.

People who are highly secretive with their phone are up to something theyd never want their partner to know about. Its convenient for them to get huffy about "privacy" so as to deflect from what they're doing. & its usually something sordid. Unless they're in M15 secret police or FBI whats the deal?

As sneaky as it is to look through someone's phone, its equally as sneaky to have an interactive device that is clearly and unreasonably completely out of bounds to your partner, to the extent you can't even take a shit without it, and then expect your partner not to have any concern whatsoever about that because your "privacy" is so important. A relationship is 2 people, not 1.

It takes effort to ensure your partner never sees your phone screen, never sees who calls you, never has an inkling what you do with your phone. & its not just a phone, is it? Its a handheld computer

If its an issue for partner to answer their phone if they accidentally leave it lying around then imo theyd have to fuck off and take their phone with them. They'll have all the privacy in the world then

Why is your sex life non existent if you don't mind me asking.

Nothing wrong with having your phone password protected.
Something very awry with never letting it out of your sight.
He's hiding something; perhaps looking at porn or something else he doesn't want you to know about. Could be gambling/debt..I'm only guessing.