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do you still fancy your dh and go weak at the knees when he kisses you

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christmascarol3 · 28/12/2006 01:37

would be interesed to know. Just come out of ten year marriage and didn't have this and I think, this was some of the problem. Is it possible to have that feeling after years or not?

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sallyhollyberry · 28/12/2006 01:43

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fussymummy · 28/12/2006 01:53

No i don't, we're not married, seems like we've been together for too long sometimes.

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christmascarol3 · 28/12/2006 02:01

have had a couple of dates since we split up and kissed a guy at a party, and had wobble knees for 2 days, I'd forgotton what it felt like must be wonderful to feel like that all the time with your partner

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fussymummy · 28/12/2006 02:05

I know what you mean.
I remember the time when things were like that. Long way away in the distance!!!
How does it feel to be single and free???

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christmascarol3 · 28/12/2006 02:10

wonderful in lots of ways but difficult too.
I'm so much happier though remembering the real me.

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fussymummy · 28/12/2006 02:14

Do you have many kids to cope with alone?
What's it like?
I've never been alone for any lenth of time with kids, except for when partner was in hospital!!
It was so lovely and relaxed here.
Must make me sound like a right bitch, but i'm not.

Monkeytrousers · 28/12/2006 02:18

sometimes - in the course of a lifetime, thats all you can expect realisticly

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christmascarol3 · 28/12/2006 02:21

find coping with the kids easier without him around as not the arguments etc. Have 3. 9,6,3 the younger two have been fine but my ds has been upset at times.
Your not a bitch, feel the same way sometimes its easier to be on your own than in a crap situation, you don't want to be in.

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fussymummy · 28/12/2006 02:27

I've recently been in touch with an ex boyfriend.
We split up because we were too young and things were moving too fast.
He keeps emailing me, and some of the things he says are really stirring up all the old feelings.

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christmascarol3 · 28/12/2006 02:35

fm, are you going to see him ? the end came for me emotionally when ex kept telling me he didn't love me and going off in moods, drinking etc and I thought, do I really want my children to grow up in a loveless environment.
I think sometimes you have to follow your heart! or is that just madness ! who knows

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fussymummy · 28/12/2006 02:42

A huge part of me wants to, and he's already said that he wants to.

He doesn't live near to me anymore, but he visits his dad who still lives in the town.

He's married now but wanting to get out to live in a flat with his son (who doesn't get on with the mother either).

I know i could easily meet him when he's next down and my partner would never find out.

Think i just want to see what he's like now, and see if the feelings are the same in RL as in emails!!

Just feel so confused, that's why i'm still awake, just keeps going round in my head!!!!

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christmascarol3 · 28/12/2006 06:57

sorry for taking ages to reply fm.
I think the question is
if this old flame wasn't around would you be happy with your current partner.
and is this old flame your escape route out of an unhappy relationship
or are you just looking for fun.

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AttilaTheMeerkat · 28/12/2006 08:17

FM

He's married currently and you're living with a partner.

So your partner won't ever find out if you were to meet up will he, that's wishful thinking on your part methinks. Don't suppose either that this man's wife has even merited an ounce of consideration from yourself.

You are being used and this man is in all likelihood telling you what you wish to read.

Look at your own relationship closely and work on any cracks that are in it. It is all too easy to get sucked into a rose tinted past of nostalgia (you will probably want to meet again as you like the illicitness of it all) but you could be making a huge mistake in which you lose everything supposedly dear to you.

You need to look at this in the cold light of day. If you do that you may come to your senses a lot quicker.

Ex's are ex's often for good reason.

WideWebWitch · 28/12/2006 08:25

Agree with Atilla re ex fm, it won't end well, don't do it.

In answer to the OP, yes, dh still makes me go weak at the knees when he kisses me. Not when it's a 'bye, see you later' peck in the mornings, obviously, but yes, I still fancy him like mad. We've been together 6.5 years.

danceswithreindeer · 28/12/2006 08:39

Not all the time (we've been together 11yrs) but when then need arises (ahem...) he can still have me quivering

allnearlyoverforanotheryear · 28/12/2006 10:12

Been married 12 years in June. Fancy him? Sometimes. Weak at knees? Definately not. He's a brilliant Husband and Father though and makes me laugh.

kittylettekissingsanta · 28/12/2006 10:15

after 6 years most of the time hes just there, and we get along, too busy to really notice each other, kids, work ect

but when we get time alone i feel 15 again, and he makes me melt,

i still fancy the hell out of him,but then again hes a gorgeously fit 21 year old...

ask me again when hes 43, lol

QuootiepieTheChristmasAss · 28/12/2006 10:18

Not really...sometimes, but, very rarely. More and more often he's irritating and annoying and I would sooner be slapped across the face with a fish than have him kiss me.

noddyholder · 28/12/2006 10:27

Yes I still fancy him after 15 yrs and we have just had 2 days together alone as ds has gone to my parents for a few days and it has been brilliant

kittylettekissingsanta · 28/12/2006 10:28

lucky you, i think i need to ship mine off for a night, but i dont really like doing it,

but need a good sleep and a good, uhhh yknow

NOELallie · 28/12/2006 10:57

Not often. No time for it really. Too busy being mummy, cook, cleaner and holding down a job. Do I miss it? Sometimes but most of the time other things are more important.

fussymummy · 28/12/2006 18:43

Christmascarol3 Yes we'll meet up at some point, but i don't know when.

I haven't been entirely happy with dp or a while and i've been working so hard to work things through

We've been through a lot together over the years.

I think i'm enjoying the male attention atm.

DP is very self centred and mostly does what he wants for himself, leaving me to care for the kids anyway.

AttilaTheMeerkat Neither of us need to think about his wife as he's leaving her anyway.
They've fell apart a while ago, so it's not because of me.

It isn't only him that has told me this.
I'm best friends with his cousin and she keeps me informed.

In fact it was her who introduced us when we first met.

I won't do anything until i know it's the right thing to do.

Christmascarol3 sorry for speaking out on your thread.

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DeckthehallsLaDiDaDi · 28/12/2006 20:01

Dp and I have been together for 5 years and he still makes me melt with his lovely kisses. He is a very good kisser.

secretlywishIcouldknit · 28/12/2006 20:05

Been married 14 years.

Still fancy him. Know he still fancies me

Sometimes it seems like we're old slippers to each other (y'know, comfy, cosy, known and familiar)

But sometimes (and luckily not too infrequently) when we are both awake at the same time and not too ground down by family life, my god! I remember how I felt when we frst kissed! And. . .