dont know what to do next?

[reallyconfuseddotcom01]

Trying to put all this in a nutshell........
Im a single mum mid 40s with a DS.
No real relationships for 10 years. The odd few disastrous ones!
For nearly 18 years there has been a guy in my life who I met through work. His history is one serious ex with whom he has a child with (14 years old) and who is now 'buying him out' of their joint property as he wants to buy somewhere for himself. We started to get close just after my ex cheated on me 10years ago. He was back and forth to his ex, I dont think he knew what he wanted, and she made things quite difficult to see his child if he didnt 'toe the line'.

Anyway for a good few years he has been telling me he loves me, wants to be with me. Tells me how beautiful i am daily in texts. I feel as though we are in a full time virtual relationship as he wont actually commit and tell me how he really feels and follow things through!

Met up with him at the weekend didnt sleep with him, it stirs up all my feelings for him. Then he goes cold. I know he is defo looking for a place by himself but he is still close with his ex, too close for my liking? He says how he hasnt slept with her for years yet only last year they went on holiday together? Albeit a huge gang of them and he says they didnt even share a room? I texted him this morning and again poured my heart out and said I am not prepared anymore to be intimate with him until I know its definately going somewhere? Whats the point? Im too long in the tooth now to piss about. I want to know we have a future? He wont give me a definate answer and texts back something sexual so i told him I give up, I told him everything he told me he wants, a nice woman, security, etc, is here on a plate for him I just need to know where I stand? I ended the conversation saying 'thats it, Im done now'............ I havent heard from him since. Ive deleted his number so I cant keep texting him. What do i do next? I do love him, as I say hes been in my life a long long time and I feel no other man will get a look in whilst he is in the picture.

If you want to use the "Over it" line - and that's your decision - I should think you still can:

• Have you had a relaxing day?

• I've had a thoughtful day. Been thinking about our relationship. Decided I'm over it.

• etc.

Thank you Scarlett XX

I hope you tell him where to get off, reallyconfused, because you deserve to be treated properly and with respect. That man's not going to do it. It's in your hands to stop this blatant disregard for your feelings. All power to your elbow!

Thankyou Klep I'm ignoring it I've deleted it already before I can reply

Good on you queen. Step away from the player! Say no to drama! Value yourself more than some git does! And other empowering slogans!

Thankyou I will keep you posted ....... Onwards and upwards X

Yep! Onwards is so much better than round in circles. You can do it.

Thankyou I hope do

Bottom line,OP. If he really wanted to be with you, he would move heaven and earth to make that happen.

Think carefully before you decide to engage with him again. You're the only person in this scenario that has your best interests at heart. Good luck.