Been with DH for over 20 years and he's lovely, kind and I wouldn't suspect him of any wrong behaviour... until before xmas. I found a string of emails to a women half his age in another office. There's no smoking gun, no explicitly sexual stuff. But there is a volume of cosy chat about likes, dislikes, future plans, the children.... there's also a poem written for her, flirty talk of meeting in the spare office, some evasive talk about the after party at the office do....
So I confronted him. He admitted it was all looking a bit wrong but claimed it was never an affair and he was just bored at work and needed company and enjoyed the attention of an attractive young lady. Told him he looked like a sad old man chasing a young girl and to stop it. He didn't go to the office party.
So far so good. But he was away overnight this week in her town so I had to check again. Again, no smoking gun, but still loads of to and fro, gutted they're missing each other at the office party, alerting he'll be there this week, more chat about favourite films etc. And a flirty suggestion about hiring a car and going off together for the weekend.
What the heck? Is this just platonic, as he claims? Am I unwilling to admit he's pulling the wool over my eyes? And what should I do next??? It's too hard/sensitive to talk to family and friends about but I need advice.