Quick engagement?

[Lappydoodaa]

Is anyone out there still happily together with their dh many years after a fast engagement?

My in-laws got engaged six weeks after meeting & married soon after. They had over 50 happy years together until MIL died.

DH & I knew we'd get married as soon as we started dating, but we didn't actually get engaged for about a year. We've been married for 25 years.

Engaged after 3 weeks, married 2 years later, June is our 10th wedding anniversary.

But then he was my best friend for about 18 months before we got together...

I recall reading an article (maybe have been a link from MN) on longevity in relationships. The summary was that if your relationship works out it's often because the 'emotional baggage/habits/flaws' that we each bring to a relationship happen to be a good match. Relationships that are rushed have a higher risk of failure as you haven't had the chance to work out if you know or can tolerate the other's persons 'demons'.

Some people are also more natural risk takers/impulsive personalities so are happier to risk early commitment.

I personally don't see any benefits in rushing a relationship - maybe for women it's the biological clock ticking. In previous generations you couldn't live with someone (aka get regular sex) until you were committed but since that doesn't apply now I can't think of a good reason to formally commit to someone that you just don't know but then again I'm not an impulsive person.

Hindsight is a wonderful thing! If you commit then just think through the "what if it doesn't work" and determine if you can handle the consequences ie telling family & friends Mr Right wasn't quite Mr Right. As with any gamble - Don't commit more than you are willing to lose.