just ordered to thank husband for my 'lie in'

[stillnotjustamummy]

At 8.30 husband came into bathroom, handed me 4.5 month old, plus older two aged 4 and 2, and barked the words "say thankyou for your long lie in".

I had a really hard night with the baby, eventually getting to bed at 4.30 this morning.

How can I calmly explain that speaking to me in this way is absolutely not on?

[Squashybanana]

Eminado- I agree that this husband was out of order. I said as much in my post. I just don't think dumping the kids and going out for the day will improve the situation. It isn't that this dh has done nothing, he has just forgotten that dw has not slept either. I remember going in with a baby at 9 am and saying 'your turn' to dh in the early months on his 'lie in' days. He'd say '9am is hardly a lie in' and I would say 'it is to me when i've been up since 5:30' . it's fricking hard. For everyone.

[Binders1]

He went in to pass all THREE kids back after doing op a favour for looking after his own kids!

[TheoriginalLEM]

On the face of it he behaved like a cunt, but honestly - both of you were exhausted. Can you try and get some sleep today? in shifts maybe if you are both knackered?

[HermioneJeanGranger]

He went back to bed?! Cheeky git. Handing you the baby because he/she was crying for boob and wouldn't take a bottle is annoying but understandable, but handing you all three, being rude and going back to bed is horrible behaviour.

[LillianGish]

Competitive exhaustion - you've got a few more years of it. Not excusing him, but you have to try and be a bit lighthearted (which is why I posted the cartoon earlier) You've both got to expect each other to be unreasonable sometimes when the fog of tiredness descends. You said he's not normally a tosser so I think benefit of the doubt is in order. The correct response to Say thank you for your lie in is Say thank you for your unbroken night's sleep up to that point. Early nights all round!

[Jengnr]

He handed her three children while she was mid-dump and expected her to thank him for it.

I don't give a fuck how tired he might be. That is unacceptable.