Can you really find genuine relationships from OLD?

[honeyJD]

I've been single for six months, I don't get out much as I'm a full time working mum with not a lot of time/money spare to really meet anyone. I'm 29 and want an actual relationship, I don't want just sex/casual dating or a disposable relationship.
Everyone's been swerving me away from the likes of POF saying I'll just meet married/desperate/horny men and not the sort of man I'm looking for. But where AM I going to meet someone then

Basically has anyone actually found someone decent and non desperate from POF who wants a serious relationship?

Of course you can. Huge numbers of relationships these days start online, the idea that it's just for saddos or shaggers is so outdated.

I know at least two now married couples who met OLD, they were about your age as well. Suspect there are more who won't tell

I met my dh on POF, 5 years later we're married and due dc3 in March, yes you have to sift through the weirdos but it can happen

Yes absolutely, I think at least half of my friends have now met their husbands/wives/partners online. I didn't meet DP online but I was on Match when we met and he had signed up to it a few days previously so if we hadn't both happened to go away for the weekend to the same place we may well have subsequently come up in each other's Match searches as we lived fairly near to each other and had a lot of the same interests!

Definitely. I met my DH on my second every online date. Been together nine years and married for 4, with DC. As a pp said, you just have to do a bit of sifting through the weirdos who send you creepy messages.

After 6 months of dating numerous perverts, liars, cheats and wierdos I have now been with the most gorgeous perfect man for 6 months. Never thought it would happen, all from Match, and I'm 50 this year.

I met my now DH on Match when I was 32. Been together for 5 years and I can't believe my luck. I avoided PoF when I was single because I thought I'd be more likely to encounter people wanting flings given that it was a free site. However, my DH's friend met his partner on PoF and now they're happily married too.

Met DP on my first ever date on match. Been together nearly 6 years.

I met DH online. You have to filter quite aggressively though. And don't bother with any site that's free to join.

I spent 2 years with someone I met on Tinder.

He was ridiculously beautiful, great career, kind, honest... There was just something missing so it ended and we are great friends now.

Met my DP on OKC five years ago. Getting married this year and currently TTC our first child so I'd say it's a pretty genuine relationship

Had to endure an awful lot of terrible dates before I met him though and in the hours before meeting up for the first time I was pretty despairing about it and considered cancelling because I couldn't face wasting another afternoon of my life. Glad I still went.

PoF is terrible, really makes you despair for humankind. I was on there briefly until one man I was exchanging messages with suddenly went on a massive rant against women and said we were all nothing but nasty cum buckets...

I met my partner online. I booked our wedding night hotel yesterday, roll on 28 May. Best thing I ever did. I was 49.

Of course there are lots of horror stories because most people only talk about the bad/shocking stuff. I am another success story. No horror stories here at all. Signed up to a couple of sites (match and okc), had a couple of lovely but no chemistry dates, one brief fwb fling and then in March last year met my now awesome DP, who, after an ea marriage, turns out to be everything I ever wanted. Practically living together and very much a forever relationship. I was the first person he talked to and we messaged for about 2 months before we mer (he was working away). Be discerning. Don't feel the need to reply to everyone. Fwiw i am late 30's with full time job and 2 dc's who are with me most of the time. It is possible. OLD has changed my life for the better

Absolutely possible. I met Dh on the guardian online. This was 9 years ago! We now have 2dd. We'd never have met otherwise.

I was 30 and had just moved back to UK from abroad and wanted to meet men. I was lucky I had a few dates then met Dh.

I met mine on pof. It's our 1 year aniversery today and we've just got back from a amazing night in London. He's the most laid back funny sweet horny genuine man iv ever met. .

So its doable

Met my DH on POF.

There's just as many weirdos in the coffee shop on the corner as there are online. Sifting through them is the key!

Absolutely possible. I know 2 match.com babies within my friendship group.

Personally I had some nice dates but didn't meet anyone more serious.

Was does OLD mean???

OLD is online dating!

I have a friend who is married to someone they met on POF and another (my best friend) who is in a long term/live in relationship with someone from POF.

However....I agree with other posters that POF is probably the worst site in terms of ratios of players/marrieds/idiots vs. normal men.

Why don't you sign up to any others?
I was always signed up to POF, OkCupid and Match at the same time....two free, one paid site.

I had the most luck in terms of volume of dates on Match but met my now DP on OKCupid (we're engaged and TTC DC1).

How many dates have you been on?

It took me 43 first dates (which includes various outcomes) to meet my DP

I'll also add that another two of my best friends met their DH's on Match.

Out of our friendship group of 10 women:

• Three are single
• Two met their DH's in real life (one worked with his sister, the other met through friends at a house party)
• Four of us met our DH/DP's through OLD

Seven years later, I can say yes,^ it can happen It only took me three months too. Don't give up too^ easily, you could find a diamond in the dross

Not POF but yes I met lovely DH on a dating site - married, 2 kids. Couldn't be happier. It's just another way to meet people, there are no special 'online only creeps' there. Sure, there are a lot of people looking for affairs or just hook-ups, but if that's not what you want, it's quite easy to also weed them out.

I met DH on mysinglefriend. I met some not so eligible men too but eventually found him. No different to meeting non eligible people in cars before you find your match.

Good luck

Why so sad after only six months of being single?

Six months is really nothing and, if your last relationship was long term, only really just enough time to be fully over the last one.

I don't want to scare you but it took me five years to meet the right person and my other friends a similar amount of time...