Just dump and move on; start dating other people

[ThisIsStillFolkGirl]

After reading another thread where the advice is, quite reasonably, to dump someone and move on/date other men, I wonder if it really is that easy for some people.

I mean, I work full time, my work brings me into contact with lots of people, but (excluding a number of married man along the way), no one I've met through work has shown any interest. I have hobbies and interests, and a mixed sex friendship group, but that's never presented any possibilities either.

I'm not really interested in dating, so not bothered really, just wondering whether some people really do just get inundated with offers/have loads of choice/options.

I haven't been able to dump someone on Friday and be dating someone else on Monday since I was 20!

[ThisIsStillFolkGirl]

Actually, AF's got it. Some people are just happy to take anything aren't they?

I suppose if I were hanging around that sort of place, with those sort of people, it'd just happen, vaginaaa

[AnyFucker]

The folks on JK never seem to have a problem getting lots of shags. Teeth not a requirement, it would seem.

[ThisIsStillFolkGirl]

Haha no, quite!

[MadeMan]

"Teeth not a requirement, it would seem."

Handy for opening up bottled beverages though. Mind you, three litres of White Ace comes with a plastic screw top.

[SolidGoldBrass]

I think it's fair to say that for women over about 40, it is harder, because we live in a world where older women are supposed to be either 'happily married' or invisible. There's enough guff in popular culture about how embarrassing and disgusting and undignified it is for an older woman to look for a sexual partner. It can put you off even trying.

However, it is always going to be aa lot better to be single than with a crap man, or desperately trying to cling on to any man you can find. I used to cheer myself up (once past about 45) with the thought that I had already had more sex than most people, so I would manage well enough without any more sex and I certainly didn't miss it enough to try online dating (not only am I getting on a bit, but I don't photograph very well and am not particularly glamorous. I wasn't put off by the thought of dickpics, I was put off by the thought of all the insults).

[PeppermintPasty]

I've got a related problem in that although I'm hugely happy being single, I would love a shag, to be frank.

I live in the rural wilds of Cornwall, so options are a bit limited and I don't go for livestock.

I remember the halcyon days of living in a city and going out, happening to meet a random sexy man and then doing the deed, or not, or whatever. Ok, I was younger then too, sans children etc. But if I tried to pick anyone up round here, leaving aside the marrieds and the weirdos, if there was anyone left I'd be amazed. Plus, round here, I'd be burned in a wicker man if I did it too often, whereas in a city, you can be nicely anonymous if you wish.

What's a woman to do? I genuinely cannot abide the thought of OLD, though a lot of my friends have done it. They've had several twats between them, so it's not encouraging.

[SolidGoldBrass]

One way to get an uncomplicated shag might be to go to a swingers' club.

this site might have some useful info.

You don't necessarily have to dtd at the club, but they can be a good way to meet men who are up for sex. They will not all be 'married-and-cheating', some will be single, some in non-monogamous situations, etc.

[PeppermintPasty]

Ha! Oh my word SGB. See, isn't that just hardcore OLD?! I'm too much of a wuss to put myself out there online.

I think I'll have to stick with mentally dating a celebrity or some such for now...