Not sure about meeting this guy

[LoTeQuiero]

Met him online ( not dating site, fb, via mutual friend. Got chatting, etc.). He's a professional, been working away for the last few weeks and we've been chatting loads. We've made plans to meet in London next week, go to a show, stay overnight (separate rooms!)

He sounds lovely, intelligent and friendly. My issue is this: he NEVER asks me anything about myself. Sometimes we exchange ten messages a day and sometimes it's none. But they are all inevitably about me asking him about his day, background, etc. - you know, the stuff about sisters and brothers everyone discusses in the beginning. I was so excited to finally meet him but this what seems like utter self-absorption is really getting to me. I have visions of sitting next to him struggling to think of the next question to ask!

Thoughts, wise MN-etters??

Erm - it went well. Very well. I didn't think that he was my type initially but he is just so, so lovely. I came away smiling.... Not sure how many details to post here?!

Sounds promising
Post what ever you want - you don't owe us anything except in depth details

Well he's this really quiet, very relaxed type of person so I wasn't sure for a while. But then we had dinner got drunk and ended up in bed - my GOD! The change was incredible, he was like an animal and really, really good. I woke at 5am with a massive hangover and no painkillers so he actually got dressed, went out and found a shop to buy me painkillers. Then he massaged my neck and back until I felt better. The room was pitch black and bizarrely it was much easier chatting to him in the dark! We talked and laughed until 8 and cuddled Then we fell asleep until 10 when we had to get up. We checked out, had breakfast and said goodbye. It was lovely.

Yes I will be seeing him again but not for a while because he's working away for a bit. He's a doctor.

Excellent.

He looked after you well.
And a doctor to boot.
You go girl!

Ha ha! Yes he's very sweet and very intelligent - an excellent combination. He's an absolute gentleman. Not as sparky as my usual type but the last usual type one ended in heartbreak and disaster which is not a place I ever wish to revisit!

Glad you had a good time. Sounds like a top bloke

I think he might be..... Fingers crossed!

The quiet ones are always the worst most interesting and you're now another notch on his bedpost hooked on his gentlemanly manners.

He sounds like a smooth operator of many years experience and you're best advised to get your head out of the clouds and continue to date other guys as it could be a long wait until you see this one again.

Out of curiousity, did he ask you a lot about yourself or did you become engrossed in other subjects?

Oh don't be so negative goddess! I don't have my head in the clouds - I just had a good time and he's not a smooth operator in the slightest. It would be a shame if I never saw him again but not the end of the world. We've already agreed another date to meet along with location and activity. It was a real mix of conversation about ourselves and loads of other stuff.

I'm not being negative. I'm manifesting healthy scepticism borne of experience and of your earlier posts which appeared to indicate that you saw yourself as being in the early stages of a relationship without having met him.

I'm glad you had a good time and hope he turns out to be 'the one' for you, but I won't be at all surprised if he doesn't, iyswim.

He's already pissed you off (would have done me too), I'd not go if it's going to cost you a lot of money to listen to him all night. Conversations should be a two way thing.

why would he work away as a doctor? helping charities round the world? Sounds like it's going to be a long distance FWB situation. And yes, agree with goddess - he's smooth! built it all up and then bam you aer in bed on date one, and then he's happy to not see you for a while. But if you are not after a serious LTR, then this may be perfect for you for now!

Oh so you met him and he played you like a ruddy violin.

What kind of doctor is he ?

Doctors rarely "work away"

They tend to work on wards, in labs, in practices, in centres

Those types of places rarely move location.

Keep your head screwed on, fgs

I'm with the cynics ( realists)..I'm afraid
The smooth, charming, gentle, handsome ones are the worst . Don't let your mind get carried away

OP there is nothing wrong with you wanting the same sexual gratification as a man. The linking this with any type of romanticism is the concern.

Yes! don't let your mind wander into imagining that it was anything more than what it actually was .

Lovely shag. Don

Oops, don't get carried away it is anything else until he comes through with actions not cheap words

His name isn't Don is it ?

If he's training to be a GP he'll be required to work in a number of different specialities (obs&gynae, pysch, a&e etc) and will have to go where vacancies arise.

If he's chosen a speciality he may find it necessary to apply for jobs in various health authorities before he can establish himself on a career path that isn't blocked by queues of older doctors waiting for promotion ahead of him.

I've often found that the quiet ones who come across as Sunday school teachers being of the self-effacing missionary persuasion can be eager to adopt a variety of positions unexpectedly versatile, and if a doctor can't get his finger on the pulse brain round female anatomy what hope does the rest of the male species have of getting it right?

Don't let his quiet ways fool you, OP. He's a man of considerable experience and he has no shortage of willing bedfellows.

I do like a good Don , send him round

Oh my God! I seriously cannot give more details. But suffice to say I am not deceiving myself, I do not view myself in the early stages of a relationship with him (!!!!), I know where he works and why, my parents are doctors so I have a good grasp of the medical profession and I trust him. Yes, I could be wrong, yes, I may never hear from him again or he might just want sex. That's probably not what I'm after but I'm a long way from diving head first into a serious relationship. We're dating. That's it. Things could change for me or him but as far as Wednesday goes, it was nice, it was good and I enjoyed it.

And no AF, not Don. Or Juan