Trolls

[Throwingshade]

I know there was a thread about this just a couple of weeks, but just want to remind us all to think before investing time and emotion - and most importantly personal information and experiences - on threads in Relationships. Especially if it's something triggering for you.

This board is being infiltrated by trolls at the moment.

If the OP is over egged, if the OP is too 'bad' to be true, if it reads like a soap opera with convenient updates every couple of hours to keep people entertained, then it's likely not true!

I can't think what you mean, usual!!!!!!

Do you think so usual !

Why did MNHQ not at least comment on the thread bearing in mind the amount of troll comments on it. Either that or delete it bearing in mind the amount of inconsistencies in it. The daughters age and she didn't see the wife for years beforehand then it became she saw her just before she died. It was all very strange.

It's been a free for all today!

I've no idea why that!!!! thread wasn't pulled.

Another thing to watch out for is posters getting absolutely annihilated coming back a million times and drip feeding more and more provocative and outrageous opinions or 'facts'.

Maryz This poster is feeding off on people arguing with them which is why it was a bad choice to respond.

That thread is truly truly bonkers. I don't actually think i can finish reading it and I am not even half way through.

Throwing Another thing to watch out for is posters getting absolutely annihilated coming back a million times and drip feeding more and more provocative and outrageous opinions or 'facts'. - yep this is what the one that I feed was doing. I really should have known better.

[bluch]

i mean

Is there a regular bereavement troll? How do you spot them - I'm on that board all the time

I don't believe that the troll accusation is true.
The idea that people would post inflammatory comments on internet forums just to get a response from ignorant twatheads is blatantly ridiculous

No, its not. Its a very real thing and one forum I belonged to even had a troll say her baby had died. She even posted a pic of her dead baby. It was all a huge lie and she had got away with quite a lot before someone who'd been quietly checking facts out in the background (not the admins of the site) was able to say - this is all lies.

That comment was tongue in cheek as the pp was making an inflamatory comment to get a response. A little too subtle, I think. I had to read it at least twice.

I don't like deletions, whether they be of posts or of threads. If a post or thread would be normally be deleted, then I would like MN to colour them shit brown. The thread could be locked.

There would be exceptions, such as when an op is worried about being identifiable. Posts can be pulled at poster's request etc.

But colour those trolls shit brown. Go on, you know you want to.

The stepmother one sounded exactly like a poster on moneysavingexpert who posts similar stories. It made me back right off. I don't know whether it was the same person, but it certainly had the same whiff of inflammatory fantasy about it.

Yes, but mse also has funny trolls, and here too. I don't mind those.
The dead dog buried in the garden for example (mse)

Ok just reported the man whose wife didn't want sex after he had an affair and refreshed to find it's been deleted.

Why did I report?

Because it was a 'man'. And because it had the same 'reasonable' tone to it but with a killer, provocative core i.e. I want more sex with my grieving wife!

Flame away but nearly every single post purporting to be a man turns out to be bullshit.

Of course people will say what about the poor genuine guys who need advice, and people always fall over themselves to try and seem equal when I man is posting.

Hit send too soon:

...when a man is posting, but not very many genuine men would come to Mumsnet for personal and intimate advice. Parenting stuff, discussions, banter etc in parenting or Chat or AIBU yes - and quite right too - but Relationships board...

There's another one up in relationships.

I usually hide the thread if in doubt, saves time and it doesn't annoy me then. I against my better judgement gave a sarcastic response the other day. I believed it to be a troll and several posters piled on me and one poster thought I was the troll and said I should be banned

I and hid the one about the affair earlier

the relationships board is prime trolling territory because relationships is full of over invested posters who hang on the op's every word and will keep bumping the thread for updates. Honestly the posts of "just checking in," and "hoping you're ok," after a thread hasn't been posted on for a few hours is clearly over-invested, however if you're trolling there then those posters give you all the indulgence you could ever want.

And relationships is the only board where people post in the heat of the moment: "oh, DH is just coming up the drive now, am going to confront him right this minute," "I'm sitting in the car on my way back from the police station, will update more when I get home. Just didn't want you to think I hadn't come back,".

Really? People are in the midst of life-changing situations and their first thought is to post on a forum they have never posted on before, and to keep coming back to do so? Riiiight.

Imo there are far more threads which are left to stand than are deleted, purely because MN hq can't always be sure whether it's genuine or not. It's very easy to set up a new username, new email address and new IP and be entirely first-time, in which case MN will give the benefit of the doubt. I reported a thread last week which I still don't believe for a second is real. But when HQ came back they said they had no reason to believe the op wasn't genuine but would obviously keep an eye. But so many people had reported it that the response from HQ was a mass response...

Although I note that HQ have recently taken a passive aggressive response to some threads. Have seen one this morning where a thread has been posted on by HQ with the added text that posters shouldn't invest more than they can afford to lose..... For me that says "we're not sure whether this is real, it might be but it equally might not be....

Throwing I thought that one was a troll too I would like to say it´s because of my sophisticated Troll Radar but I´m basically just paranoid now that every bloke is a fake!

It is a bit of a shitter for for genuine blokes tho.

If someone has their thread deleted and are accused of being a troll, does that mean MN can ban them from future posting? It´s not as simple as name changing then trying again is it?

Glad to see this thread as it gives me a place for a rant.

I've stayed away from MN for about a month, because all of the trollery was doing my head in. Came back on Saturday and there were at least 3 obvious troll threads on the Relationships board.

What I don't understand about the one that was deleted yesterday is that all 'his' other posts are still there, or were when I checked. They all described his basic domestic set-up so why did they still stand if it's a troll/reverse?

MN used to come on threads and remind posters not to give too much. Have they stopped doing that now?

wannaBe if that's the same thread I'm thinking of then I seriously doubt she's a troll.

I think MNHQ do actually know if someone is trolling.

You mean like what happened with Nobbly?

Oh wait...