What is fair here? Ex problem..

[Redhound]

My abusive ex wants to come over for a day to scan our old photos. We were together for 15 years so there are a lot of photos and as he has a commercial scanner he could do it all in a day. I've offered to scan them gradually and send them to him but he is insisting this would take years and he wants to come round next week. I don't want to part with the photos at all as it took me ages to get them back last time so would not be happy with him taking them away to do. Much as he was horrible to me and does not deserve consideration, it seems unfair to deny him this as they are shared photos of holidays etc. I can control the situation as I can lock him in a section of the house and I have a savage dog which would shred him if he tried anything! But I know that seeing him again would upset me as I did love him despite his treatment of me. He is very manipulative. WWYD?

[Redhound]

Thanks again you guys, you are so right and I am so glad to have your input. I should be VERY angry with him and how he has treated me, so I should not be so worried about treating him well or fairly now. He has even taken on a tone with me in the emails! I will be strong and not back down, it has really helped to have some online back up from people who understand about abusers :)

[BerylStreep]

Can you just direct his e-mails into a folder so you don't even have to read them until it suits you? And don't feel under pressure to respond to any or all of them.

[Redhound]

Beryl that's good advice too, I will try to do this. Thank you again for the support; I am feeling a lot better now.