Sex - very personal (and embarrassing!!!)

[quiteembarassing]

Um... lol this is quite embarrassing.

Me and dp havent had sex yet (been together 8 months) as I am having trouble (lots of pain!!) so we do all sorts of other things (leave that to your imagination lol)

he always seems to be doing the "giving", and i feel bad as he's doing all the work. any tips (lol) of what i can do (if you're not too embarrassed to give any) as i dont know what he likes and doesnt like

he has told me some things but they're a bit extreme or i dont like doing

How did your weekend away go - any better now??

its not til friday twinkle. i cant wait though. but dp is coming around this afternoon and staying at mine til we go away together for the weekend.

If I don't get another opportunity just wanted to say, enjoy. Hope it goes well.

Quiteembarrasing, I knew a couple who had a similar problem where the doctor had sewn her up too tight after the birth. She had corrective surgery and got it fixed and it healed really quickly and she said it was the best thing she had ever done. They also sued the ar*e off the useless doctor who had done it. If you guys can fix it without intervention then that would be nice but after trying all the suggestions on here you still have issues then I would definitely get it fixed. HTH.

thanks you guys. i did think about sueing the person that did it, but i cant remember her name lol, ive got dp asleep on my lap as i type this lol

When I had DS, I tore quite badly. Things are still painful but getting better. We have a really good family planning clinic here and it's all female doctors. They also gave me things called dilators. They're basically glass dildos (sorry) in a variety of widths (lol). That seemed to help as it reduced the anxiety of sex. Somthing else I got suggested to me was steroid injections to soften the scar tissue. One of the FP docs also told me that it can take up to 3 years for everything to heal properly after a traumatic birth (hope not).
You sound like you're trying evrything and bless your DP. He sounds like an absolute star for being so patient with you.

By the way, it'll be in your records somewhere who did the stitches.

I definitely agree with the others - get it properly checked out. Your partner sounds v understanding - lucky you!
In the meantime, how about an all-over massage for you both - body Shop does some quite good oils - it doesn't have to lead to anything
As for the bondage stuff - just the name sounds yucky - but it might be worth a try - use scarves/stockings or whatever and try it on him first - could be fun - something I've been wanting to try (she sighs!)
I also find I'm way more relaxed with a few drinks inside me.
Good luck and have fun

How did your weekend go??

it was good thanks. we had fun we tried a few new things out

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