do you think you will ever feel that you are attractive to the opposite sex ever?

[DimpledThighs]

I have been in a relationship give or take for 12 years. We are very happy and love each other very much. He tells me I am sexy eyc eyc. But I do wonder if anyone would ever look at me and think I am sexy without knowing anything about me. I don't know why I have started thinking this and I would NEVER act upon it, but being at home looking after childnre and working has really cut down my contact with the oppostie sex and I feel - in a way so unsexual.

I would just love to know if I could still turn a head or make lingering eye contact.

Am I being stupid or has anyone else ever felt like this?

should be 'etc etc' not 'eyc eyc'!

I feel very much like this. Admittedly I have put on weight, but have never been thin and felt sexy when I was slimmer. I know what you mean about not acting on it, I just want to feel sexy again.

It probably does happen for you but because you don't think it will you don't notice it!!!

sometimes ill feel sexy, mostly for my DF cause he loves me and i can turn him on really easily,

but most of the time i just feel frumpy and not very sexy

i feel i could be if i lost weight

why don't you get dressed up and have a girl's night out - see if you get chatted up

I remember when I was younger I'd feel very annoyed if a man whistled at me. These days if one whistles (rare) I love it . The bin man whistled at me on Thursday (after a christmas tip probably) and when I told dh he said "was he an old bloke?". Thanks!

i know this feeling it since i have had the kiddies and put on far too much weight. dh say i look great still but i never belive him i have such a low opinion of myseff i hate looking how i doi lost 3 stone once and felt great but it all piled back on and i feel like crap again

I know deep down the cause is low self esteem but have no idea what to do about it - love iota's idea of a girl's night out but I still feel like everyone would look at me like I was a sad old hag!

Well, sure. There are plenty of 50-somethings out there who are starting to look pretty good .

There is no way anyone wuld find me even remotley attractive let alone sexy.

when i met my ex i was slim and gorgous. i have since gone up 4 dress sizes. harldy ever wear make up and havent had a hair cut in 2 years.

even when i make an effort the best i get is an out of work tranny appearance.

lol santa 'out of work tranny apperance'. I once tried really hard to put on really nioce evening make-up and the end result resembled Mr Punch!

dimple, are you over 40? Thats the magical age when you all of a sudden become invisible you know

I was going to write a moany reply to this thread about how I've become invisible to the opposite sex at the grand old age of 32.

Then I looked down and realised that I'm wearing an unwashed dressing gown, pyjamas with holes in them, have my shockingly grey hair pinned back in a bun and my face is greasy with bio-oil. And I was knitting all the way through Strictly Come Dancing.

I'm not invisible - it's just that all the men are averting their eyes in abject horror

And, oh fuck, I'm 33, not 32!

Ahh, memory loss has come early

oh er, i am over 40, oh shit, oh well, crying miserably.

Snafu, c'mere and gimme a snog, you gorgeous knitter you

no am not 40 yet - god if I feel like this now what will I feel like then!!!

Oh god, just go spend some time in a country where men ogle women more openly. I'm hardly [insert attractive young woman of your choice], but if I spend time in Paris or Montreal or somewhere else sane, I feel pleasantly ogled, without ever being hassled.

Heck, I got ogled in Paris while very pregnant with DS1, and with (v large) DH.

Hunker, that's the best offer I've had for a looooooong time, believe me.

Right, I'm googling Paris options...

book two places...im coming too

one of the only reasons I work is so I get ogled and I've always been a "very big girl" so it's nothing to do with weight.

I've never disliked letches because I've always been happy just to have a bit of attention

Have discovered that the more I practice (to use a Wedding Crashers term) "eye-f@~~ing" the more I get nice looks in return. Then I happily trot back to DH all buoyed up and confident about myself which apparently is very sexy. Think I must be married to one of the only men who thinks it's sexy to watch his wife openly flirting with other people (lucky old me )

I still feel sexy...i quite enjoy getting whistled at by builders.

it would be great if it was more like paris where people were a bit more open about it. Chances are we all are all the time - but we never know. I would be much healthier and more confident if I did!