I a wondering how other sahm's feel about not earning and using money earned by their partner / husband? I think this is probably a problem as old as the hills but it's really starting to bother me of late. My husband and I were quite poor until recently, now my husband has his own business and is earning a lot more. It seems though that to a large extent he regards it as 'his' money. I feel very insecure and powerless sometimes although this probably says more about me than him. The thing is that in heated arguments horrible stuff comes out from him (he usually says he was just angry and doesn't mean it). Such gems as - I should be grateful to have him - I am lucky because I have more money than abc friend etc - he has made plans and would be able to easily manage without me - could pay to have someone come in and look after the children - if we separate he will be able to hide the money etc etc etc
Although these things are said in the heat of rows they still worry me. I don't have a profession and I am not sure what I would do if we did ever separate.
Perhaps this sounds really silly - that's why I wondered how other people feel about it. I just don't feel like it is my money too, I don't feel like I've earned it. But then I think that he couldnt have got out there and earned it without my supporting him at home. He thinks thats not true because he could have hired a nanny and would have made the money anyway.
I get an 'allowance' out of which I get all the food, clothes etc and the rest of the money is dealt with by him. So if there isn't a dinner he likes he will say that he gives me all this money and he expects to have a dinner that he likes.
Now reading this back he sounds like a chauvanist(sp!) monster - he does help out and is usually nice - just the rows when it slips.
Any ideas, experiences, advice etc very gratefully received. Many Thanks...
p.s I do want to be at home with the children - I'm happy with that.