We have been trying to get along better for all of our sakes but mostly for the dcs so was planning on spending Xmas together.
I've spent the whole time planning buying in things that I wouldn't normally as he said he was having dinner etc..
Anyway we took the dcs to a panto this evening and went and had food after, on the way home I reminded him that we needed to stop of at his mums to collect the presents for the dcs he then said that "he would bring them round with him when he comes over" I gave him an odd look as he was supposed to be staying over to wake up with dcs, I asked him why he would need to bring them over if he was staying and he told me he wouldn't be coming over until late morning/afternoon because he was now staying at home as his gf (ow) has no family in this country and she doesn't want to be alone (which I do understand) I turned round and said "that that isn't my problem and he promised us that he would be here and has left it right to the last minute to tell me"
He got pissed off and backhanded me in the mouth whilst I was still driving, then proceeded to tell me I was selfish and nasty and I can go fuck myself and he won't be coming round at all and we can all fuck off and not contact him again.
So I'm sitting here with a fat lip feeling like shit and not really looking forward to answering the dcs questions in the morning about why their dad isn't here, they have already started telling him that he doesn't care about them and that he's not their family because of her (which has not come from) and now this I feel so bad for them and tbh myself.