Going to separate from Husband, is it wrong to consider moving away?

[mrsh1807]

Dh and I have been married for 12 years and have 3 children aged 11, 8 and 5. We have finally reached the point of separation, I'm worn out by him! We will have to sell the house and I'll hopefully take a decent chunk of equity to buy a smaller house for me and the boys. As we live in the expensive south east I'm struggling to find somewhere decent for us to live.

I grew up in Gloucestershire and still have a couple of good friends there, I keep thinking about moving back. Is this wrong? Well I know it is, but has anyone had any experience of this? He would stay where we are now.

I know I'd be removing the boys from his immediate vicinity, but the way he talks at the moment it's as if he's not bothered about seeing them. I'm sure that will change. But he's also threatening to walk out any day now and leave me with all the bills and mortgage to cover. If I have to sell quickly to avoid defaulting on the mortgage, I'll need to have somewhere else to go.

Any advise? I've never been through something like this before and am feeling a bit lost and vulnerable. He's currently the main earner, as I recently took a much lower paid school hours job - probably the final straw in our relationship - I can't cover our living costs etc alone.

Help?

Back in September when we first talked about splitting he just said he knew I'd always look after the children well, when I asked what he meant he said he wouldn't necessarily be seeing much of them as he'd move nearer to where he works, about 10 miles away.
I don't know if he still feels like that. It's clear we need to talk, I don't have many answers yet. My head is buried in the sand.
We both have to man up and try and have a sensible conversation.

So your kids have to move house and school anyway ?

And their father says he doesn't plan to see them much after you spilt ?

You can't afford to stay in the area where you live now and your STBX is unlikely to support his children financially ?

What are you waiting for ? Move to where your friends and family are and where you can afford to live .