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What's the biggest turn-off you've ever had from a potential BF?

282 replies

1a2b3c4d · 27/11/2015 13:13

So I was sitting with a gentleman friend watching some violent git on tv murder his ex, beat up his GF... and then the inexplicably forgiving GF crawls into bed and waits for him in a sexiful and alluring manner.

Clearly my response was 'WTF is wrong with her, this is sexist nonsense'...
to which gentleman friend replied to the effect of 'domestic violence is ok if it only happened once, they made up' etc.

No, it is not ok. Keeping well bloody clear of him now!

Any other big turn-off experiences?

OP posts:
echt · 02/12/2015 07:05

I've had a shit day at work, and this thread has made me weep with laughter.

I think Exasperated's man who couldn't do it doggy-style on page 2 of the thread is the best.

CainInThePunting · 02/12/2015 15:50

Many years ago, dating a guy. We had finally dtd the night and morning and afternoon before and then got up to go to the pub in the evening, standing behind me at the bar he pressed his hard on against my buttocks and whispered in my ear "Do you fancy a length?".

More recently, dating a guy I'd met through a hobby, he was fairly backward in coming forward so I decided to move things on. As we were leaving a restaurant and walking back to the car I put my arm around his waist. He blushed and giggled like a schoolboy. I was mortified and that was it as far as I was concerned.

SassyPasty · 02/12/2015 16:40

His come-face made him look exactly like Gollum. Didn't let him near my precious again.

PoppyAutumnScarlettRuby · 02/12/2015 19:14

Years ago I had a boyfriend who referred to his condoms stored in an old video box as the pleasure pack. It was slightly more than offputting when it got to that point for me to hear " let's see what we have in the pleasure pack". Suffice to say the relationship did not last beyond that.

The next boyfriend was articulate, intelligent and extremely handsome but I couldn't help being put off by his shoes. They were hideous. He was emotionally pretty cold so it was not going anywhere anyway. I've seen him recently and he has certainly aged well in 20 years, he still looks great, the shoes were better too.

Orange1969 · 02/12/2015 19:53

I love this thread!

Just to add - I had a boyfriend when I was at university who kept telling me he wanted to insert cucumbers and candles into me.

He had clearly watched rather too many porn films.

He also had a fetish for having sex in the shower - again, because he had watched a porno featuring this.

He became more and more weird as time went on. He wanted me to wear sexy underwear but refused to kiss me. He was awful.

My last conversation was about the size of his penis. He said "It's big, isn't it?". I smiled and said nothing,

It wasn't big.

MrsSchadenfreude · 02/12/2015 23:06

Thin beige socks. They looked like dead feet.

Orange1969 · 03/12/2015 04:20

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Flashbangandgone · 03/12/2015 05:27

He asked me if could come on my tits.

Granted we all have different preferences but is that request really that bad? Doesn't seem in same league as most of the truly shocking stuff on here! If that's the worst, you've been lucky!

Flashbangandgone · 03/12/2015 05:30

Ok, with the cucumbers guy, It seems you have had worse!

CainInThePunting · 03/12/2015 16:27

Ooh, remembered another one...

Dating had moved on and I invited him to mine for dinner. We sat down to eat and I poured the wine. Sitting across from him I couldn't help but notice that every time he took a sip gulp of wine he left behind a residue of masticated food sliding down from the rim.
I asked him lightheartedly hiding my disgust how he managed to get so much food on the glass and he replied that once he had chewed a mouthful he liked the taste of it mixed with wine.
BOAK!!!
That was our last date.

Orange1969 · 04/12/2015 10:33

Flash - the come on your tits guy did freak me out; I just wasn't in the mood for a "pearl necklace".

Cucumber Man - was just weird. Had some v v strange views about women. Once did something in bed that I specifically told him not to - not nice.

Ailurophile · 04/12/2015 11:51

"then there was a single thrust"

Hahahahahaaa! Brilliant!

TonySopranosVest · 04/12/2015 12:53

Hear That Juice and the novelty sponges has made me go a bit hysterical.

Have had many terrible experiences with terrible men which is why I've now given up and am resigned to a life of singledom. They include:

The man who shouted "Fucking Arseholes" as he came. Hmm (He wasn't fucking my arsehole BTW)

The man who wore The Worst Shirt In Human History and when I commented on it told me it was by the company that makes Noel Edmonds' shirts. LIKE THIS IS A GOOD THING. Dear Christ.

The terrible kisser, similar to PP, just opened his gaping maw, shoved his tongue in my mouth and that was it. What The Fuck?

And the man who spiked my drink with tequila (which I'm apparantly allergic to - who knew?) which resulted in some light vomiting and profuse sweating. Lovely.

Orange1969 · 04/12/2015 18:30

Lol at Edmonds shirt and "fucking arseholes"!

Briefly dated a guy who was too mean to pay to have his boiler mended (he was loaded so no financial problems) or his bathroom door replaced after it broke.

The latter led to me feel

Orange1969 · 04/12/2015 18:30

Oops!

The latter led to me feel

Orange1969 · 04/12/2015 18:34

Dammit again!

I was embarrassed because all of his friends saw me on Loo as there was no door.

The former meant that our first kiss involved me inhaling the musty smell of his unwashed jumper.

Also, the first kiss was awful because he clamped his open mouth onto mine and thrusted his tongue against my palate.

He had buck teeth as well - it was like a dental assault.

paintandbrush · 04/12/2015 20:54

these are hilarious! or downright scary as the case may be. Where do these weirdos come from? Grin

wannabestressfree · 05/12/2015 05:21

Dental assault I love :) I can forgive most things but gruesome teeth I cannot....

sapphirestars · 05/12/2015 13:23

Am I the only one who can't stop laughing at love truncheon??? Brilliant!!!!! Grin

sapphirestars · 05/12/2015 13:23

Am I the only one who can't stop laughing at love truncheon? Brilliant!!! Grin

sapphirestars · 05/12/2015 13:24

Sorry for duplicate post. I'm on my phone and thought it hadn't posted.Hmm

bodenbiscuit · 05/12/2015 16:48

A silly that stank when I went down on him.

bodenbiscuit · 05/12/2015 17:04

Willy not silly!

flippinada · 05/12/2015 18:15

A silly willy Grin! I must be very childish cos that made me giggle.

This thread is great, really laughing at some of these. My personal favourite is side-to-side man.

It's a long time since I've been on a date but the last one I had was a dreadful kisser. Hard to describe, but he kind of drew my mouth into his and slobbered all over my face. Complete and utter turn off - I rather liked him before that.

Oh yes, there was one chap who wanted me to go dogging with him. I politely declined the invitation.

Lacoba66 · 05/12/2015 18:25

I once dated a man who admitted to taking impressions of his teeth with bluetac, because he was convinced that they were moving Hmm.

Oh and he used to measure and photograph his willy on a weekly basis, to make sure it wasn't changing shape....