First office party since his affair

[Issabella]

Found out my OH cheated on me in September he had been having an affair since July and it started at an office party with a woman who still works there. His Christmas Party from work is tomorrow. He has offered not to go or to go and drive and not drink but my head says this is the wrong thing after all if he has a couple of drinks and goes back to her our marriage isn't worth much. So I have said to go but my anxiety is out of control - have I done the right thing and how can I get a grip on myself I feel back to feeling how I did when I found out he was cheating.

"A reputation for avenging grudges", blimey.

I've never done it but I can imagine throwing something at someone in anger, pp are making out she deliberately meant to hospitalise him!
however keying her car & saying you've a reputation for avenging grudges is a little I would love LOVE to damage exH property ooo Christ that would feel so good but only in my dreams!
It's odd because 99% of people would not take their partner back unless they cut off all contact which has obviously not happened & not something you're demanding so you're dealing with a different situation to most.
If this is real I think you two have a long way to go before you're back on track. Stop sweeping things under the carpet, talk to him (even her?) in a rational, calm way & expect to feel upset by this for some time to come.

Re the party, go with him? Failing that just do something else. They work together every day, an office party is not gonna make much difference to his fidelity!

Bear in mind Katie, they started their affair at the last office party....drinks aflow....

My DH is also going out tonight, alone, to first social event, since his admission. I was also invited, tickets booked and paid for. But I had forgotten babysitting promises. So I cannot go. He is going, friends wife is now going in my place. I hope he has a good time, can enjoy it, but not too much. There is zero chance of the ex OW being there, so I am comfortable.
Good luck with your DH event.

Jane there is so much wrong with your post above that I could weep for you.

xxx

some of you lot are fruitloops.

i mean, OP says she hospitalised someone, threatened someone else and scratched pissflaps or something into her car and you get all breathy and ooh, i'd LOVE to do that.

jesus fucking wept.

Why aren't you going with him?