Have to walk away from this man

[Walkingalonelady]

Please don't flame me.... But I got involved with a unavailable man a few months ago!

I fell head over heels for him and he says he feels exactly the same and will leave his GF yet his actions don't really match his words!

Just kind of feeling like I'm a hook up and nothing else and seriously doubting that he will ever leave, I seem to really only hear from him when he wants to get together and where as he used to come to mine for the night it's now all conducted from the hotel room where he stays during the week for work.

I know I have to end it, I know I deserve more and his GF certainly does, but I'm sad, I'm scared and secretly hoping it will kick him into action and make him so what he says he will because I'm not allowing him to have his cake and eat it.

I honestly have never never felt like this about anyone before, but I hate the way I feel like a teenager constantly chasing him.

This is going to be one of the hardest things I have ever had to do, but now I don't know when to do it, if I contact him asking to see him then I'm chasing him..... Which I'm really trying to avoid doing or do I wait it out until he contacts me to meet and do it then?

I'm relieved to know you didn't text him and I hope you find the strength of mind to tell him where to go if he makes a move on you tonight.

Did he tell you about his girlfriend from the off and, if so, why did you think it was acceptable to meet him outside of work?

Girl, if he did it to her he'd do it to you! He's a cheater, period.

He's made it crystal clear you are his shag, that he sweet-talked you to get in your knickers.

But I suppose she doesn't understand him/he's been unhappy a long time/doesn't know how to end it with her/blahblahblah. Mouth moving, he's lying.

So you work in a hotel and you've a crew in doing a renovation/extension/new wing and you're shagging a crew member who spends his life moving round sites. You are definitely the first FOH* he's shagged though. For sure.

*even if you aren't a FOH (I'm basing it on your time posting and the fact you are posting during work hours) the above still stands.

You're so mean!
Of course she's the first.
It's luuuuuuuuurve.
That's why he couldn't help but cheat on his girlfriend.
And why OP was right to sleep with him when he was with someone else.

Hope you used condoms. Even so, you'd better get your arse (and other bits) down to the clinic

She's already said she's not proud of herself.

Being ashamed of yourself doesn't give you free reign to do bad things.

I'm not convinced the OP is ashamed, there's barely a mention of the GF it's all "me, me me". I think this post is just an attempt to talk about something the OP can't discuss in RL.

I bet my life savings she didn't end it last night.

*i'm not actually convinced

It's too early for typing

I agree but I'm not sure just being mean to her is all that helpful in terms of getting her to do the right thing.

Most people in life are me, me, me. The girlfriend is totally abstract to her. She will only end it once she realises that it's bad for her - emotionally/professionally/ reputation-ally.

OP are you shagging this guy in the hotel you work in? That is really really stupid. Do you want your colleagues knowing what you are up to, because someone will find out.

I ended it last night! He contacted me as he knew I was working the late shift.

Text sent!!!!

Well done OP!

Well done OP.

But you need to stick by that decision now. Block him.

well done.
how did he react to losing his side piece?

Another one will be long shortly

Like buses, they are

Good, I hope you did.

There's something really icky about a woman who is having sex with a man when he's sticking his wick elsewhere, really, really icky.

Never mind the rest of it.

Be careful, OP. Working in the hotel trade you'll inevitably meet randoms who aren't, or fall far short of, what they claim to be and you're best advised to adopt the policy of not mixing business with pleasure.

There's something really icky about a woman who is having sex with a man when he's sticking his wick elsewhere, really, really icky.

And your thoughts on the man..?

You are doing the right thing OP. Thing is, he is not only cheating on his gf, he is also cheating on you (with his gf as they won't have stopped intimate relations)