Tips and advice for healthy dating / new relationships

[RedMapleLeaf]

There seem to have been quite a few threads recently were people have been hurt in the early weeks and months of a new relationship.

I wondered if it'd be worth sharing some words of wisdom for staying safe and secure whilst taking the risk of starting to let someone new in your life?

A woman who wants a relationship not to be shagged and dumped needs to know that if he's just after an easy shag, he'll wander off.

This was on the radio in NZ on Sunday: Sam Pease From memory she has written a book too, there should be a link in the talk. Also the link to the audio reply lasts 2 weeks so until Christmas.

I was thinking of this thread again today. Last Sunday I met a new man, friend of a friend. I have already found myself spending time thinking about him and then beating myself up for thinking about him

So, I am planning to deliberately spend some time by myself, and am going to put as much thought in to it as I would a date. Does anyone else do this, or know of any writing about "a date with yourself"?

I very often find that when I get talking to someone they are immediately asking for nude photos. Do the rest of you find that men are like this or am I just attracting the wrong ones?

Yep you're attracting wronguns. Have a look at your profile again maybe?

boden, initial contact/message are ideally about hobbies /interests you have in common. Those that focus mainly on compliments about your looks/figure tend to descend to wanting more photos etc.

OLD is tricky.

I actually don't have any profiles up at all at the moment. Next week I'm going on a date with a guy who I met a few years ago but I was in a relationship at the time. He seems really very nice. Much different to other guys I've come across lately.

I would say a red flag is men who put that they want a first date to be watching films at your house. If they can't be bothered with a proper date then it means they aren't really interested in getting to know you IMO.

I very often find that when I get talking to someone they are immediately asking for nude photos. Do the rest of you find that men are like this or am I just attracting the wrong ones?

boden I don't have much experience to draw upon, but no. I think that's probably because I don't use online dating.

I would say a red flag is men who put that they want a first date to be watching films at your house.

Bloody hell, it'd be weeks before I let them know my actual address, never mind let them through the front door.

I thought so, yes. I have stopped online dating because there are far more dishonest people with issues than there are decent ones.