Have I done something wrong?

[LadyofDunedin]

Some advice sought. I've dipped into the world of OLD. Met - although not in person, yet- whom I think a nice gentleman!

He's been working abroad last couple of weeks and we have exchanged emails with the intent to meet. Last night I receive the following;

'Hello hello!

Thats me back, jeez that seemed like a long flight! So I might be through in Xxx next wed/thurs/fri.. how would this evening / Mon or Tues work for you?

Hope you've had a good weekend?

Here's my mobile... Xx

x'

As the suggestion was for last night/ tomorrow potentially, I what's app (bad cellular signal at home) - at 5pm yesterday... No response, despite reading /showing his pic as profile pic (thus no doubt of right number...)

Oh wise ones of MN, what should I now do? Nothing? Email back?

Doesn't make sense... But he increasingly looks flaky!

[AlwaysBeYourself]

Sorry just seen you hav'nt. Please be aware he is probably emailing others.

[LadyofDunedin]

I am, I get that. I'm not naive,

He just seemed keen then not- maybe he did get a better offer!!!!

[AlwaysBeYourself]

I'm sorry maybe your not naïve but he could have emailed you whilst he was abroad to arrange a date

[LadyofDunedin]

He suggested a number of days in the email I posted on here, always...

It was I who suggested last night on text in response to that email where he posted his number too..

[eddielizzard]

ignore. don't think it was anything you did. he was probably trying to meet a couple of people and went with the first response. old is tough.

[AlwaysBeYourself]

But why wait till he was supposedly on a plane? Why not last week to say he would be back next week and fixed a date then It's all too last minute and if I were you I would wait for him to contact you again and arrange a date in a couple of days. If he is really keen he will wait .

[LadyofDunedin]

It was the natural flow of things. Of course he could have set the date done earlier, but we have only had five emails over the space of two weeks!

Ball I guess is firmly in his court .. I can always decline any BS excuses

[LadyofDunedin]

And YY to OLD being tough.

[AlwaysBeYourself]

You sound lovely. He hasn't replied to your second email has he? If he is really interested he would have replied to both emails by now. He may be married and it's all bullshit or he may be genuine. You have only just dipped your toe in the water. Why not meet some more men

[FellOffMyUnicorn]

My whatsapp is a bit crap, and messages dont always come through...

[LadyofDunedin]

I sent it an hour ago.., no response as yet. Here's what I said (bear in mind direct response to his last);

'Hello hello to you too!

Welcome back. If you got a what's app from a strange girl with a pic on a boat last night I'm afraid that's Hello hello to you too!

Welcome back. If you got a what's app from a strange girl with a pic on a boat last night I'm afraid that's me !

How about we catch that beverage this evening instead, 7.30?

I can tell you about the creepy circus show over the weekend...

Lady d x'

[LadyofDunedin]

Paste errors there, Apols; you get the jist...

[ChristmasPartyDress]

Don't worry about ''getting it wrong''. You can't ''blow'' it just by trying to be straightforward about arranging things. You might meet him and you might not like him anyway so don't worry about it!

I think it's OK not to be too effusive in communications about meeting up. It is ok to be a little business like about that first meeting!

I had a guy who was supposed to meet me (for the second time) and he postponed and then didn't get back to me and I was so so tempted to initiate the contact myself after a week or so but now, I'm so glad I didn't.

I think I can tell if they're married. It's easy enough. One man, he said to me before we'd even arranged a coffee that he couldn't meet anybody in his own home because blah blah blah...... but if they tell you where they work or tell you their sur name, then I think, just trust your gut. I have dated some men who were hopeless or unavailable in their own ways, but my friends (married) were obsessed with the idea that they were all married (the men I was meeting on line I mean).

[LadyofDunedin]

I know of his work professionally and mutual colleagues etc so no danger of that.
Just the danger of losing my dignity !!!

[AlwaysBeYourself]

Ahhhh ok so you know colleagues of his and where he works?

[LadyofDunedin]

Oh yes, he has undertaken contracts for my organisation. He's legit, apparently thoroughly decent.. Just looking increasingly flaky ?!

[AlwaysBeYourself]

Don't email again. He knows your keen already from the two emails. Just wait but get on with your life. Are you chatting to others on OLD?

[LadyofDunedin]

One what's app , one email. What's app was in response to his first email with his number and potential meet up last night/ tonight.

Despite WA telling me he read my message early this morning, I have given him the benefit of me emailing this afternoon.

If he's quiet now , I'll call time...

[AlwaysBeYourself]

Good girl! Get chatting to some more men, it will do you good!

[LadyofDunedin]

I'm not sure I'm cut out for it. It knocked me more than it should .. And I feel embarassed

[AlwaysBeYourself]

I can understand that. Others have said that the best way to do online is to get to know lots and increase your chances and have fun.

[IwishIwasinNewYork]

I don't think you've done anything wrong at all.

You just responded, said you were free for a drink.

Don't feel embarrassed. But definitely try to toughen up a wee bit and throw your net wide.

Hopefully he'll reply anyway...

[ChristmasPartyDress]

yeh, you just said that yes you were free for a drink. Don't worry about it.

if you meet him, it could turn out that he has a squeaky voice or he smells... don't let yourself be disappointed by a man you haven't even met.

I have been disappointed by men I have met, but only for a short while. I am building up a real armour!

[HellonHeels]

You've done nothing wrong at all. Don't message him again and think carefully about responding if he gets in touch.

Meantime, don't feel embarrassed, you're doing fine! Move on from this potentially unreliable bloke and get chatting to some more people. Take it lightly (I know it's hard to)

[brunette123]

He asks to meet you - and at short notice too - then he ignores you twice m - sorry but that isn't nice and you are worth more - don't feel embarrassed - it's him not you - I really believe that unless someone has had a terrible accident, if they don't contact you then it is because they don't want to - everyone can find 30 seconds to text if they want to. I wouldn't see him now even if he contacts you - horrid being made to feel like this. Don't let it do your head in. It's him!