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Oh dear, I had a bit of a red mist moment yesterday

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bran · 10/12/2006 15:57

I'm feeling a bit silly today because of it. Please tell me I'm not the only one who manages to be calm and mature 99.9% of the time (may be exaggerating a bit there) and then completely looses it in the most childish way imaginable.

Should I tell you what I did or will you all think less of me?

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charliecat · 10/12/2006 15:59

Oh yes, tell us.
Once I screwed, yes, screwed a bowl of plum tomatoes into dps head after he wouldnt put his frigging boots away.
What did you do?

PinkTinsel · 10/12/2006 15:59

go on spill!

we've all been there bran, i'm sure it wasn't that bad!

NotQuiteCockney · 10/12/2006 15:59

Oh, everyone gets really angry from time to time. I assume DH was the target?

taylormama · 10/12/2006 15:59

tell us!! - we all have moments like that (or i do

PinkTinsel · 10/12/2006 16:00

pmsl at charliecat..... were you pregnant?

RickmanAroundTheXmasTree · 10/12/2006 16:01

It can't be that bad. In my last red mist moment, I got out of my car and thumped someone's windscreen!

charliecat · 10/12/2006 16:03

I think I was. The smell of them had annoyed me everytime I opened the fridge...so when he said he wasnt moving his boots it seemed logical to use them as ammo
Rickman Whos windscreen?

PinkTinsel · 10/12/2006 16:04

dp turned off the oven while the dinner was in the other day and i went properly insane at him and threw one of dd's toys at him

c'mon bran, we've all shared ours..... it's your turn!

RickmanAroundTheXmasTree · 10/12/2006 16:06

Some stupid cow pulled out in front of me in her car. I had to do an emergency stop and I had all the kids with me. She just drove off, so I caught up with her at the traffic lights and thumped her window whilst swearing rather a lot, then I thumped it again.

BudaBauble · 10/12/2006 16:07

I have thrown wine glasses at DH - last time whilst we had a dinner guest!

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bran · 10/12/2006 16:08

Well, dh was a bit under stress yesterday, and I was sort of being understanding. Basically he's very behind with his PhD and he had to get an essay thing to his tutor by Monday, which meant it had to go in the post yesterday. Now he knew about this deadline for about 5 weeks, but of course he was madly typing into the small hours on Friday night. Then he left the file open without saving and went to bed, inevitably that meant he had to redo loads on Saturday morning.

So ds and I waited and waited, he wouldn't let me go off with ds to do the shopping as he kept saying he would be finished soon. Then he couldn't print it as he didn't have enough paper (which I pointed out to him last week), so I ended up dropping him off at his office to print it. He was going to join ds and me for lunch. So ds and I shopped and we waited around for his phone call for ages until ds was whinging about being hungry. Then dh phoned to say he wasn't going to make it as he had printer trouble so ds and I went home for lunch and dh met us there.

So, we were having lunch and I made some sort of comment about dh getting more organised (having paper/cartriges for the printer, coming home before midnight at least twice a week etc) and dh said "For someone who doesn't do anything you really complain a lot".

tbc. . .

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charliecat · 10/12/2006 16:09

Did she know WHY you were thumping her windscreen?

charliecat · 10/12/2006 16:10

yes bran, all sounding good so far...

Carmenere · 10/12/2006 16:11

Ah I can see where this is going Bran he deserved it.

charliecat · 10/12/2006 16:13

"For someone who doesn't do anything you really complain a lot"....my eyebrow hairs stood on end when I read that bit. I kid you not.

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bran · 10/12/2006 16:13

There I was with a tub of coleslaw in one hand and a nearly 3 foot high pile of of dh's clean laundry on the chair behind me that I had washed, dried, folded and repeatedly asked him to put away. Then the red mist came down and suddenly there was a mixed pile of coleslaw and clothes on the floor. It felt so good that I went into the kitchen and took out the whites wash that had just finished, separated out my things and poured grapefruit juice on his.

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RickmanAroundTheXmasTree · 10/12/2006 16:13

Err, yes! She kept mumbling sorry. I felt a tiny bit sorry for her when I had finished, only a little bit though. She should have bloody looked before she pulled out. I'm not quiet am I?

Carry on Bran!

charliecat · 10/12/2006 16:15

God, im surprised you didnt get him with the coleslaw.
Whos going to end up doing the rewashing?

charliecat · 10/12/2006 16:16

Well Rickman you dont look like the windscreen bashing sort

Carmenere · 10/12/2006 16:16

And how did he take it?

PinkTinsel · 10/12/2006 16:16

o my god bran..... my dp would have had dd's entire toy collection flung at him for that one! twat deserved whatever you did to him imo

pmsl at rickman attacking the womans car btw..... bet she didn't even know what she'd done dozey mare!

PinkTinsel · 10/12/2006 16:18

sorry bits slow today!

i'd have goton him with the coleslow, never mind the clothes.... you'd better not dare to rewash them now!

colditz · 10/12/2006 16:18

deserved totally. don't rewash his stuff, and if he doesn't pick it up and wash it, binliner it. That was a right nob thing to say.

RickmanAroundTheXmasTree · 10/12/2006 16:23

Ooh well done. I think you were remarkably restrained actually. What did he say?

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bran · 10/12/2006 16:24

To dh's credit, he did at least act like an adult. He finished lunch and put ds down for a nap (yes, to make things even worse ds was present. I think it was the effort of not shouting and swearing the brought down the red mist.) Then he picked up his clothes and brought them into the kitchen, trailing coleslaw everywhere, and put one load on to wash. The rest of the clothes, about 3 loads I think, are still sitting in a laundry basket in the kitchen. They may be there for some time.

Once I'd recovered my maturity I cleaned up the coleslaw. Then I cleaned up the washing powder that he'd spilled, which reminded me why I'd taken over washing his clothes in the first place. He makes such a mess and mostly he forgets to unload the machine so that I can't wash anything and his stuff goes smelly and has to be washed again.

Neither of us have mentioned the incident since, but he has emptied the dishwasher which he only ever does after an argument or when he's trying to earn brownie points.

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