Essentially:
Met bloke on PoF (lets call him Pillock)
Clicked
Met
Had a further 5 dates over the course of 5 weeks
All going well
REALLY liked him, similar personalities/humour etc
Came round last night to say he "couldn't do this" and would only give "timing" as the reason why
I was pissed off to put it mildly as mere hours before had been complimentary about me, said he really liked me blah blah
Told him to get out my house
Got a message this morning with a very, very long explanation saying that essentially he has a good friend who is going through a tough time and he had promised to support her (fair enough), and didn't feel he could do both (eg continue to see me with a view to having a relationship at some point, and support his friend) HOWEVER he said he said he spoke to his friend last night and she told him he was a complete idiot for breaking "it" off and he wanted to fix things as he had done the wrong thing
Said the truth is that he was sure I would meet him and want nothing to do with him and then he could get on with making wrong decisions as he has his whole life and will understand if I want nothing further to do with him.
AM SO ANNOYED! He was lovely/nice/friendly/chatty/SO funny/my age/totally fancied him (no sex yet) etc. And now this?! Ugh. Yes, how can you know someone at all after 5 weeks, nevertheless there was a connection and I could see a long term prospect.
My gut is telling me run for the hills - please can you tell me you agree?
For background, I am:
A lone parent to DS, who is a toddler
Left a very very EA relationships with ex H last year
Have spent a happy year living in a lovely drama free nice atmosphere with DS
Thought meeting this guy was the icing on the cake type thing. Enjoyed spending time with him and just being myself (which could never be when was with ex H.)
He was very very complimentary re my personality etc and SEEMED to genuinely like me and enjoy being around me.
Totally turns me off that he said nope not seeing you again then gets told he's an idiot and changes his mind - is he not an adult with his own mind??
So much drama after 5 weeks?!? I wish he'd just said he didn't fancy me or something! I have my son to consider in all this. If I said yes to meeting up with him again and at some point it gets serious, what if he pulls this shiz again, at which point (unspecified) my son is aware that this guy is in our lives?
So I am correct to write back a polite but definitive see you later message, yes? Friends are in the get shot and the give him a chance camp.