Hello all
Myself and my partner were trying for a baby that we both wanted at the same time he was cheating on me with an irish girl. I found out when I was pregnant, he couldn't provide a reason, he wanted to see her as well as me, he got me pregnant as "he wanted me in his life".
I was in a vulnerableb position as I moved from scotland to london to be with him and was living in his parents house and my family live aboard.
As he kept telling me he loved me and agreed not to contact the girl, we decided to start again. I contacted the girl who stared that she didn't know he had kids and partner, and apologised and would not contact him anymore. I deleted all her contact details from his fb, phone, email etc.
You probably guessed-he lied, told me he couldn't stop talking to her, said he still wanted me. As he works in a hotel he met her whilst she was a guest, he went onto the hotel system and took her details through her payment details and booking ( I found the paper) !! He told me how he has been lying to her to get him to fall for him then tell her the truth etc. I lost the plot, I'd been financially supporting his whole family and put his sister through uni. previous to this I had 3 miscarriages, I can't explain how much pain my hear was in- he utterly and completely betrayed me and was talking to me like I was his councillor.
I messaged the girl- he assaulted me when he found out, he was arrested but before that he fled scene with all my id, bank cards etc.
Fast forward 5 days, I moved out the first couple of days were tough. I couldn't stop crying, I was scared and missed him terribly I slept with his shirt on. Then I realised that over the last 2 weeks (since i first found out) I have been breaking my heart over an individual who utterly unaffected, unfeeling with not the slightest remorse for what they have done.
He has now sent me a text to say he wants nothing to do with the baby, his irish bit on the side sent me a screen shot of their messages discussing how they plan to start a family and how their child would be so special. I think about the baby, I think about the way he pushed for the pregnancy and has now rejected it.
I think about the questions our child will ask, his family stand by him as he's "the man". He won't give me the money he owes me, or any maintainence but can pay for this girls plane tickets and £500 phone bills- and whilst I live in shared accommodation with a stranger he is having a ball!
I could take his life apart as he has taken mine, he doesn't pay tax, he works as 2 jobs but has not declared one to the other- one of them affects his ability to do the other.
I could show the paper to the hotel chain manager, his family has been protecting him so nobody knows 2 hat he gas done and I feel like what's happened is insignificant to them.
so....... is revenge ever a good idea or should I rise above it??