Binders

[Wonderous]

Have I missed something... Binders third thread has disappeared.

So good to hear from you Binders. I was afraid the flying buns might have scared you away. I have been following your story from the start of thread One and never once had a doubt about your authenticity. We are all here ready to support you or just be a sounding board if you need one.

Good to hear from you Binders. Glad to know you are doing well.

I didn't doubt you and stuck up for you. Glad you didn't see it. Hope things are settling down.

Glad to hear all is well. Probably just as well that you didn't see it. One of the things that did come out of all the bunfighting was that perhaps some people were becoming over-invested and allowing online support to spill over into RL.

Good to hear from you Binders.

Sorry to see your thread deleted but I think it was for the best (and through no fault of yours at all).

Hope you are doing ok

I'm pleased you are ok too binders....and so happy the thread was deleted before you read any of it!

I always believed you.

Hope things are a little more settled.

Thank you everyone.

Thank you Wonderous for letting me use your thread.

Gosh it sounds like it really was bad. Shame that the so called 'fake' threads can spoil/effect genuine threads/posters. What's even the point of 'fake' threads - what use are they!

Thank you for all your kind words.

Glad you missed it Binders1. I was saddened when your thread got caught up in a maelstrom not of your making.

In the interim, I hope you're doing okay.

Take care and KOKO.

Have been wondering about you too, glad you are ok, hope life is going ok for you and your DS

Indeed, to support what everybody else is saying, it is good to see you back. What happened was a dreadful pity but MNHQ acted swiftly and hopefully there will be no further derailments!

Hope you're OK

I hope all is going okay Binders. I've been thinking of you. You've behaved with such dignity.

KOKO and good luck.

Glad you're ok Binders.

Binders! Good to "see" you love.

Just completely and utterly ignore any mention of other threads - it's not worth the headspace. I think there have just been a few "extreme" threads recently, some of which haven't been accurate, and some MNetters are on "high alert". Sadly the fact that people jumped on your thread actually goes to show just what an extraordinarily shitty time you're having

Anyway, enough of the politics - how are you? And how's your lovely Ds?

Glad it is all going well.

I very rarely post and am a long time lurker but I never doubted that you were anything but genuine and sincerely hope that you continue to get strong support from your family and your real life and MN friends.

Hi Binders - I'm really glad you didn't see the other thread, it got ugly. I'm not sure I count as one of the Binders army (more of a camp follower ) but it's great that you posted and that you sound as if you are on the road to recovery. Good luck over the next few weeks

Thank you for all the best wishes.

In response to those kindly asking how I am - in truth pretty awful. Life is really crap right now. Wish I could fast forward one year from now at least the crying would have stopped! Would know where we would be living. Walking around BHS earlier today and they're playing snow is falling by shaking Stevens and just walking around crying.

Binders I never posted but I wondered how you are and thought about you often. You actually (this will sound stupid) made me feel very proud to share the same sex as you - you are so strong and positive - and I looked forward to your postings.

Thanks Binders, and your ex was one feckin eejit to treat you like that!

binders, oh love, I have been there done that, it's shit, it really is. It does get better...I never believed anybody when they told me that, but it does. Day at a time...

Binders I promise you, it will pass. It will take time, but every day it will get ever so slightly better.

In some ways, it's like bereavement. The person you thought he was doesn't exist, and the loss is deep.

But they key is that you have to be kind to yourself. If this was a bereavement then you'd allow yourself the mental and emotional space to grieve. Please don't think you have to be "strong" and please don't think you have to stop the tears from falling. It will pass sweetheart, but the scar will stay with you always.

Thank you wicked, mrsc and ohfour - I know you are right, it's just so hard. The bad days are seriously outnumbering the good at the moment. I honestly don't want another relationship ever again, I've just totally had it. Wasted a total of 24 years on two wrong men except only good thing that came out of this one was my son.

Binders I keep reading your threads and I just want to give you a hug.

2 wrong men, yes. But in addition to a beautiful son, you also gained strength, wisdom, dignity and self-respect.

I can totally understand your feelings about another relationship. But you deserve love. Especially from yourself.

Ex you've just put my thoughts into words- I couldn't put it better

Thank you ballerina, every time that thought goes through my mind, I will tag your words on the end. x