Text to a player..

[WillIeverlearn]

I met this guy who's completely played me, and I really want to send him a text, I'm not going to because I don't want him to have the satisfaction..but I thought if I share it here at least my 'frustration' and annoyance with myself might dissolve just a bit. Sorry if it's a bit of a ramble, and please feel free to tell me how stupid I was falling for his pathetic lines!

You asked me to analyse you, so I will now. You are not unique as you think you are, you're an emotional fucktard. You need constant validation that what you're doing is okay and what you've done is right or really good. If you don't get it you appear to either sulk, or get down.

You are also very manipulative, you don't stop until you get what you want, and you are aware of this too, using whatever means you can. You're a Jekyll and Hyde character. Vulnerable to your own needs but with no care for others needs. In a nutshell, not a nice person, and very miserable.

I'm not sure if you have the potential to be fun or not, I hadn't work that out, what I did know is that you knew nothing personal about me ( my choice) because I think I knew deep down what you were going to do, but stupidly I went along with it, which as a grown adult I chose to do. There's always good and bad people..you're just not a good one.. Oh, and as for the validation...you were Crap..genuinely!

Does it feel better now, or do you need to swear a bit too?

That was cutting but very refrained, in my opinion. Is there any chance you will need to contact him again? If so you need a short, sharp sentence prepared, something like:

Please, spare me the drama, go away.

xx

Do you need to say so much?

I think it would have more clout if you kept your sentences shorter and more to the point. The content is fine. I think I'd leave "emotional fucktard" out, though, as I think it looks as though you've lost it a bit there. If he does dare to reply, make sure you have a short, sharp, brutal retort at the ready (pulls up chair..)

Thanks for the input .

I know I could have said less, certainly could have added a lot more swear words but, I do actually feel a bit better now. Like I said, I'm not going to send it, it was more for my own outlet I suppose. I think I'd regret sending anything to be honest, mainly because I'm not sure if he'll reply, and how I'll feel if he doesn't (if that makes sense). This is my drawing the line in the sand moment.. With the hope that I learn!

Ooh, I think I would send it! It' very good IMO. But it depends on how things have been left? And how long ago last contact was.

Don't send it. It'll give him the impression that you think he's worth the time spent writing it.

Do not send. Repeat do not send. He won't even read it. Even if he did he would think you were talking bollocks. Keep your power. I was once a bitch and would think oh god what a bloody pain and delete. Do not let him do that to you. If he really is that bad he will just laugh at you. Do not send.

Never message him again. That will be far more powerful.

Agree with PP, under no circumstance send that text.

He will laugh and call you a crazy bitch. If you sent this you are giving him way too much power over your emotions.

If you happen to have a photo of him. Pin it up and throw darts at his face. It will give you a good laugh and relieve your frustration!

Do not send! If he's the shit you say he is then your text will give him a warm glow of satisfaction.
Far far better for him to think he's had absolutely zero effect on you!

That's what I love about MN . The straight talking, thank you.

I haven't sent the text, it was cathartic to me writing it and posting it here though, because its kind of letting it out, hopefully that makes sense!

I know he'd think I was a crazy bitch, which is why I held back, I didn't want him having any more power over me!

Think I'm going to root out some darts and print off a photo of him now, love that idea

I might be tempted to send a text to in your shoes.

Some thing shorter though, like, "well, the real you wouldn't get laid, so of course you lie'

ps, can I play? Please. I desperately wanted to send a text to a man earlier in the week so can I put it here instead? Hang on......

"Thank you, I'm fine. I know that it's a self-defence mechanism, but like the fox from Aesop's Fables who couldn't reach the grapes, the idea of a relationship with you now feels a bit sour''

(He wanted to just have sex. I'd thought we were getting close and he sprung that on me. I felt really insulted. If I wanted 'just sex' I'd hardly have it with somebody I clicked with.)

I won't send it!

I had a advert of a guy who looked like my ex but he was bald. Every time I wanted to txt him I used to look at that and laugh

I think it is very well written ...good on you for getting rid. Silence is the best way forward in these matters (my view )...give them nothing , absolutely nothing .

Oh can I join in?

"Dear twat, you keep texting, emailing and calling asking why I won't just say hi to you? Well just as I wouldn't reward a dog that bit me with affection, I'm hardly going to want to waste my precious time responding to the kind of emotionally unstable fuckwit who thought the best way to get me back would be to threaten to revenge porn me, destroy my family and career and then commit suicide in a bid to prove how much he "loved" me. There clearly is a reason you have never had a serious relationship by the age of 40 and now thanks to the powers of MN I can see every red flag. Just think next time how you would respond if someone treated your precious niece the way you treated me and what you, as the violent, twisted psychopath you are, would do to that person. Oh and LEAVE ME ALONE you Cockwomble"

God that was cathartic! Hope everyone else feels better too!

"Cockwomble"

spud MN kept me going with some great insults whilst I was actually going through that crap. Cockwomble is still my all time favourite!

Oh I hope you feel better after writing that..I've dealt with a player recently too and he just wanted sex(wish he told me) I wasn't as mature as you tho.
I sent the text saying
"Your a piece of shit and your shit in bed,your so boring you making constipation look appealing"

ooooh can I play

"your music taste is shit, you're a reverse snob, you stink since you've taken up smoking again, you act like a selfish git, you are so not the feminist you think you are,your abilities in bed leave a lot to be desire, and it doesnt surprise me that you're alone now.. despite remaining active on a dating site all the time we were involved"

oh, and "no, grabbing my arse or poking me in the morning with it, isn't foreplay and it's not acceptable to want it doggstyle every f**king time"

and breathe...

that feels better

Oooooh, can I send one?
This is like a letters to Santa thread!

"Dear XH. Yesterday, your neighbour to the right told me that your neighbour to the left (who is a proper curtain twitcher) believes I left you because you sleep with prostitutes. (she's right, though you had some other crap features too) Because she sees cars pull up on my old drive for an hour, a woman goes into the house but a male minder sits in the car outside. Basically honey - you're a subject of neighbourly gossip and a laughing stock. PS how can you throw yourself into the sex knowing there's a bloke in a car on the drive reading the latest Marina Cole, checking his watch, and laughing at what a sad dick you are when the prostitute gets back in? It'd put me off my stride. PPS You have a girlfriend. You really are an arsehole."

What a boring arrogant entitled fuck you are. I have seen through your crappy veneer and discovered the dead eyed soulless husk that is you.

I sent that ^

Wow, threatening to revenge porn you to bring you back to heel!??? I like the analogy of not rewarding a dog that bit you with affection

Just writing out the text and sending it on here, even if not to him made me feel tons better.. .

I'm not sure I'd send them to Santa though, bless him, he wouldn't know where to look ..

Oh, and "Cockwomble"....That is stored for future reference should I ever need it