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Is anyone else amazed by how supportive their DP is?

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Evenhasawatermark · 02/11/2015 12:31

I'm going through an awful, prolonged depressive episode and am aware how draining it is to be around me. DP is being amazing, when I first met him he didn't believe in depression, since being with me he has researched everything, paid for private treatment, helped me with my DD, and generally just been an unwavering pillar of support.
Not a boast so much as a moment of clarity at how brilliant he is!
Does anyone else feel so lucky in their relationships?

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goodnightdarthvader1 · 04/11/2015 13:06

I personally AM amazed by my DP, because I know I can be hard work sometimes. It's my personality.

I'm amazed by his attitude to life - how he can always stay non-judgemental and cheerful even when people are being twats.
I'm amazed by how much he values me and my happiness - because I can be very hard to keep happy and am a very negative person.
I'm amazed by how he sees the good in everything - I often see the bad.
I'm amazed by how supportive and helpful he's been while I'm pregnant - as everyone else seems to think I should just get on with it and work EVEN harder while I'm pregnant.

ESPECIALLY having read how, on MN, there seem to be a lots of twunts (and women who will put up with them) I consider myself very lucky to have such an AMAZING DH, and I will proudly shout it from the rooftops.

A month ago I went to OB and told the nurse how excited my husband was about the baby, and how he's "a good one". She immediately countered by telling me about how she had just left her abusive husband.

FluffyPersian · 04/11/2015 14:43

My Boyfriend is literally one in a million. I've got such a 'weird' personality that I'm surprised he puts up with me, let alone seems to find it endearing. I get really upset if people are early / late and find it incredibly hard to 'go with the flow' on things.... if plans change, I find it hard to adapt, whereas he's incredibly laid back and doesn't plan anything.

When we got together, I told him that if we ever got to the stage where we were thinking about marriage, I wanted to be the one to propose.. that I never wanted to change my title or surname and that I'd never be financially dependent on him.

He was like 'Yeah, sure.. whatever'.

He's supported me through being bullied at my last job and having to put my beautiful Persian cat to sleep due to kidney failure.

He also supported me having a termination last Saturday after supporting me through 8 weeks of horrendous antenatal depression, crying every night and telling him I wanted to kill myself - He didn't pressure me into a decision, said (and demonstrated) he'd support me whatever I chose to do and is now supporting me in coming to terms with my decision (It might be an easy decision for some women - it was the most horrendous day of my life).

He has always said he's proud of me, what I've achieved academically (Dr Fluffy) and my career, but also said that he has faith that if we work through all the issues that reared their head for me in the last few months, I'd be the best Mother in the world. That's probably (definitely) not true, but it was an incredibly welcome sentiment when I was feeling incredibly low.

I honestly don't think I'd ever find someone as loving, caring and who totally 'gets' me.

.... Which is why I'm going to propose to him on Boxing day Smile

goodnightdarthvader1 · 04/11/2015 15:33

persian high five, I also proposed to my DH!

Focusfocus · 04/11/2015 15:42

Mine is one in a million. Amazing boyfriend, fiancé, husband, pet-dad, and dad. Top marks.

Evenhasawatermark · 04/11/2015 15:54

Sorry to have got on the defensive-bad day. It's lovely to hear how others really appreciate their DPs, sometimes on here it can get to the point where even if a DP breathes it is a 'red flag'. I just wanted a positive, appreciative thread.

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FluffyPersian · 04/11/2015 15:55

goodnightdarthvader1 - How did you do it? Smile

I'm flying up to see him on Boxing day as his parents are 7 hours drive 'Up North' so he's picking me up from the airport on boxing day and we'll exchange Christmas presents when we get back to his parents house.

He's always joked that his 'dream woman' would bring him pies (Northern thing apparently)

I'm going to ask his Mum for help and ask her to go to his favourite pie shop on Christmas eve and buy a steak and ale pie and hide it in the fridge. When I get to his parents house, I'll steal the pie out the fridge and once we've exchanged all the other Christmas presents, I'll pretend there's one more in my bag... get down on one knee and propose to him with a pie in one hand and a ring in the other Grin

I don't know why... but this just cracks me up and I think he'll find it both endearing.... and tasty Wink

paveplom · 04/11/2015 16:09

DH is an absolute gem. I'm disabled and have a disabled DD (not DH's) but he's incredibly patient and understanding about our needs. I'm not able to work and he's never once grumbled about being the sole breadwinner or having to take on all the housework. He does a lot of hands-on stuff with DD which is quite intense because of her SN (and her dad isn't involved) and doesn't complain when I have a lie-in while he leaves for work. He's incredibly generous too and has paid out for holidays for my whole family, always picks up the bill for a big family meal etc, and has put money away for DD into trust as he considers her future expenses as his responsibility.

Shakey15000 · 04/11/2015 16:18

DH and I are equally supportive of each other (not saying he isn't amazing, just for balance!)

We've had a really rotten time of it these last 3 years. A total rollercoaster of a ride. There's been times when he's needed my support and vice versa. It seems to lurch between us.

I had major surgery in May and had to refrain from doing virtually anything for 3 months. DH did everything. All the cooking/cleaning/tidying/shopping, all whilst working full time. And we have an 8yr old DS.

It's his turn for surgery soon where HE'LL be incapacitated for a good while so it's my "turn" to fully support him.

Sometimes it seems it will never end but it's massive help when your partner is supportive.

We sound a right pair! Grin

goodnightdarthvader1 · 04/11/2015 16:30

fluffy I took him quad biking, then gave him a block of Lego to disassemble (we both love Lego). In the middle was a steel Lego brick engraved with "will you marry me?"

Turned out he'd already bought the Lego bride and groom set and was trying to find a way to propose to me with it that afternoon in an Oast house (he knows I love Oast houses), but couldn't find a suitable one!

FluffyPersian · 04/11/2015 16:48

Lego Grin That's so cool!

I love doing things that are so unique and personal like that! I'm glad it worked out so well for you Smile

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Youspoilus · 22/09/2023 06:52

Anyone on this thread now divorced?!

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