anyone else have parents who were young in the 60's?

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If so, did you ever feel, growing up, like you'd missed everything?

I've been mulling things over and started to realise how being raised by 60's survivors in the 80's might be something other people can relate to?

I just remember this melancholy nostalgia permeating everything. And all the music in our house was either recorded between 1962-75 or classical... I think I know both my parents mainly my through the music they made me listen to - that's the main insight I have into them emotionally... Anyone else?

I got chatted up by someone from Menswear at a club once. He used the line: "You were at the EMF gig earlier weren't you? I noticed you there..." which is possibly the most 90s chat-up scenario ever.

Maybe indie kids were the natural successors to 60s baby boomers? Second Summer of Love and all that.

Breeathe deeeper, daiy dreamah!!

Both my parents born in 1944, so late teens/early 20s in the 60s.

Mum went to the US as an au pair in 1964, spent 18 months out there and eventually got homesick so came home. Or I expect she'd have met and married out there.

I know she tried weed and got up to quite a few shenanagans and she still has a youngish outlook (a recent convalescence in a home after an op was interesting; the rest of the residents would sing stuff like Tipparary, and she'd be in her room with Planet Rock blaring out the radio ).

Apparently, she was the au pair this family liked the most, and we still meet up with the children of that family from time to time.

OTOH, dad had a terrible childhood. Massively abusive, alcoholic father, mother died when he was young. All left a mark on him, he's always acted like he was born old.

So I don't think there's a typical attitude from this age group. Like any age group, it's down to individual experiences.

My DPs were both born pre-war so were in their 20s/30s during the 60s. The whole thing passed them by. Their outlook was very much 1950s. All very serious and fun was low down in the priorities. I often joke that I had a 1950s childhood despite having been born in the 1960s.

I was brought up on an undiluted dies of Joyce Grenfell and Flanders & Swann.

DH's parents were the same age but were totally different. They embraced each new decade. I can remember driving on holiday with DMiL singing along with Robbie Williams (even the rude bits!).

Yep my parents married in 1967, when my mum was 18 and pregnant with my big brother (shotgun wedding?) they never confirmed /denied this.
My dad was in a 60's band heavily influenced by the Beatles.

I was born in 1983 and my childhood was comprised of almost constant 60's music . Lol

My dad once said to me, slightly resentfully, that the swinging 60s appeared to have passed him by as he'd never done any of the stuff people were widely believed to have done in the 60s.

He did then go on to tell me about seeing the Beatles in a Liverpool club before they got famous and saying that they were rubbish!

Df was born in '47 and DM in '49, so both baby boomers. I was born in '76. It was great , I grew up listening to the Beatles and the beach boys, then listened to James, Oasis and Nivarana in the 90's. Everyone was in a band. My parents were cool with us clubbing, smoking dope and having sex as teenagers.

Kathy I think you've got a point there. As a teenager, all my friends who 'got' the decent music of the 90s had those sorts of 60s references from their parents. Those of my friends dragging me to TT concerts tended not to...

CherryPicking But what was the decent music of the 90s?

I'm 47 and well into metal, have always been that way. My mum has always liked metal, right from it's formative stages in the 1950s rock and roll. I don't think you can generalise that much, especially as to me a lot of the 90s music was crap.

And as for Chris Gentry... Even his name was boringly posh sounding..

Raspberry sorry for your df, that sounds really harsh. I guess you're right, it was all luck of the draw as to who experienced what version of the 60s.

Ashley I do love the fact that I can reel off 50 year old Beatles tracks to my kids without forgetting a single word. Thats almost like going back to the folk tradition in a way, handing songs down the generations. I guess it has its advantages... Yellow Submarine is a big favourite in our house - strangely I can't remember listening to that song on the record player as a kid - I learned it purely from both my parents singing it

Raspberry of course its very subjective - maybe I should have said 'decent' - I meant the stuff I personally wasn't snobbish about at that time. Although listening back to that decade now (absolute radio etc) I love it all! Or most of it anyway. Even the stuff I cringed at at the time, like East 17 sounds pretty good to my 30 something ears. [Blush]

What did you miss out on exactly? Just curious. My parents were born 1929 and 1931 respectively. I was born 1958. We listened to the light programme and forces radio. The Beatles were loathed by mum but not by dad. He always had his car radio on. I play music from 1960s on to my kids and they have eclectic musical tastes. My parents were not rebels, dad survived national service. Mum worked in boots until she married. They voted Tory. My mum wasn't allowed to work or wear make up. I revelled

It was harsh for dad. His dad blamed him for the death of his mother (apparently she walked a long way to town while heavily pregnant to get medicine for dad as he was very ill at the time), but I got hold of the death certificate recently and dad found out it was something else entirely.

My grandfather was a bad man, and did the world a favour by dying. I've never felt that strongly about anyone else.

Meanwhile, I could say that East17 will never be high up my favourites list

On balance, I think many baby boomers have been oddly insulated by being a baby boomer. Quite a few of that generation who I know just don't seem to have any understanding that they were in fact largely lucky to have been born at that time.

For example, I've had some financial suggestions made to me that indicate they never felt the full impact of the massive interest rate rises back in the 90s, and so didn't understand how people had to take massive hits. Not that I need any finance help, having worked in that area most of my life.

But I see there's been suggestions that the changes of the 1960s were largely felt in the big urban areas. Think I'd tend to agree with that, as I grew up in a rural town.

I don't know what I missed out on. I'm not someone who thinks everyone born in the postwar years spent a decade tripping on acid in San Francisco, believe me. My parents were always very clear that neithee they or anyone they knew could afford to 'drop out'. They always worked. But I guess they got to call themselves hippies because of their geographical location and or socio economic background I don't really know...

I suppose this thread is more about me fighting things out than saying 'this is what I missed'. I don't really feel I should have been made to feel like I missed anything - I mean my generation has had a darn sight more luck than the present generation of teenagers and twenty something's. But somehow that's how I grew up.

I think every generation feels a bit like that. My dad was sad he couldn't fight in the war - 16 when it ended.

My DM and DF were both born in 43 but had very different upbringing.

DF went to an all boys boarding school. His DF was a business man and a complete chauvinist, he had no idea how to talk to women and that included me once I'd grown up. I only realised how proud of me he was after he died.... his friends told me. Very sad to think about it now.

DM had a very close extended family, dirt poor in comparison, she had an absolute ball in the 60's tried most things and often talks about it fondly. She was strict with us but also open minded and completely approachable, we could talk about anything.

They were so different I always wondered how my DF managed to snag her until she admitted that it was her BF who was dating DF's BF. She really didn't want to double date but was talked into it so decided to take some purple hearts and enjoy herself anyway. The rest as they say is history, they fell in love and I don't think he ever realised she was high as a kite the night they met .

Our house was always open to our friends and most of mine called her mum.

My poor younger DB was most put out that she knew what his pot pipe was when she found it until I pointed out she was 17 -27 in the 60's and could probably roll one better than him. He was a bit when he had to accept that his dear old mum partied just as well if not better than he ever did. She now a very young 70+

Their music filled our childhood and I still love it. It takes me back too but to a different time.

I was a teenager in the 70s and spent much of my time wishing I had been a teenager in the 60s as it all sounded so much fun and so much more carefree.. I bet the reality is that it was not!

I was young in the 1960s.....

Mine were but I think too young for what you mean... Dad born '58, mum '60, so they were more into 70s music, punk, rock etc rather than Beatles (that's a dirty word in our house).

I meant Beatles, 'The 60s' etc

I don't remember the 1960s so I must've been there.......

I grew up in Liverpool and know just the type of nostalgic bores you are talking of OP!

Dad was born in 1947 and my mum in 1950. My mum's adolescence was mainly shaped by the fact her dad died suddenly when she was 12. My gran was extremely over protective and so mum didn't have much of a social life as a teenager. Things were also financially tight.

My dad was fairly shy, spent time in the 60s being an intense bearded young man wearing a polo neck and listening to jazz...

We even met the faded stars out and about in the 80s - all a bit tragic in our heartless teen opinions!