I've posted on here once or twice asking for advise etc and I'm please to say on the whole my relationship with my partner has been much better recently.
I just want to know if people think I've been unreasonable tonight and if so how I can go about stopping this from happening again in the future.
I come home from work in a good mood, exited to spend the Halloween evening indoors with my partner. When I got home I tried to sit close to her on the settee and she moaned, saying that I was trying to fit into a space that didn't exist and that I'd make her uncomfortable, no problem I just sit on the other side near her. She's distant with me and looks upset about something, I ask if anything is wrong and she says she has a headache. I give her a cuddle to which she doesn't give back so I try to make conversation with her, she clearly couldn't be bothered to talk, gives one word answers and stares blindly into space. I got up and made us some dinner and we sat at the kitchen table to eat. Again I try to make conversation but after that fails we basically sit in silence. I ask her if she's sure everything is ok and she starts getting mad at me, says she can't be bothered with anyone right now because she's not well, states she can't even be bothered with herself. It obviously really bugs her when I ask her if she's ok.
I find it really hard not to take this personally because she cuts off all emotional contact with me when in this sort of mood. We've ended up having a big row because she states I'm being unreasonable for turning this into something about myself.
I don't want to turn this into something about myself. I'm not asking her for attention, I'm just asking for her not to distance herself from me and cut off all emotional contact. She's made me feel like I'm not normal for this behaviour and that I should understand she just can't be bothered because shes not well. Thing is she expects me to be around and be supportive of her but its hard when I feel like she'd rather I wasn't there.
I just don't know how to act when she's in this sort of mood, if I give her space she will get angry and say I'm being funny with her, if I try to talk it out that makes it even worse.
Reading this back I realize it makes me look clingy and annoying, I just don't feel like it's unreasonable to ask her not to cut me out completely. Instead of her being concerned that it makes me feel this way it makes her angry and that bothers me. If the shoe was on the other foot I'd simply reassure her that everything was ok, give her a quick kiss and tell her not to worry.
Am I at fault here?