5 months & 14 dates - the joy of OLD

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Been OLD for five months, chatted to loads of men, checked out their backgrounds, tried to get the balance right between online chat & meeting in a reasonable time. I kept my options open vetting a 20yr age range (10yrs either side of my age) in the end they were all between 46-49 (49 yeah right, we all know you mean anything up to mid 50s) & I live in London, so you'd think there'd be plenty of choice, which there is........plenty of wankers. So, after sieving through the too old/ too fat/unfit/too deluded/plain scarey, I've dated 14 men for varying periods of time & here are my statistics, the cream that the websites had to offer:

2 were happy to date but only wanted a 'hand-holding' relationship with nothing beyond, not even kissing!

3 were totally impotent

2 had major anger issues (turned into trolls)

2 were complete fantasists away with the fairies & got VERY angry when I unravelled the truth about their (non-existent) fantasy jet-set lifestyles.

1 was lovely & kind but completely & utterly thick as a plank

1 was a drug taking, chain smoking alcoholic

1 was everything you'd want on paper, educated, well travelled, great in bed but wanted someone 10yrs younger to have kids with & I can't.

& 2 were married!

Misguided as it might be, I am still keeping my chin up at this point, that there might be a lovely man out there waiting for me.

SuperFlyHigh Never mind dick pic's why the hell do they do that, mail from the other side of the world!?. That's really bizarre unless they see it as some sort of chat thing?. Surely not?

Sazzle41 well OK my name heron just a boy was the first random thing that came into the abyss of my head, nowhere near a boi at 64 but hey ho! sometimes they refer to an older him as an old "boy" so perhaps not too mad. Never consider it for an OLD profile never!.

Perhaps coffin-dodgin old geezer wheezer might be more in line;!?

There's something that OLD has uncovered that I find quite frankly terrifying. There are just so many freaks and weirdos out there that I just didn't kind existed in my pre internet dating days. So many of us have had experiences of these men that I know it's not just me. I think in the olden days, these kinds of men wouldn't have had the nerve to approach us in bars etc that we weren't exposed to them. But because OLD is a risk free way of meeting women, we now encounter these creeps and weirdos on a daily basis. And we are confronted with the internal workings of the more inadequate yet very entitled male mind. Has something gone very wrong with men or was this here all the time, but just very well hidden...?

Is it just me or do other people know what I'm trying to say? I can't quite put my finger on it but I know what I mean...!!

Just didn't know existed, not 'kind'!

I know just what you're trying to say. I think it was kind of hidden before, cos pre internet you would never have been exposed to some of these workings of the male mind. There was just nowhere for the men to be able to share these thoughts so anonymously was there?

Destinysdaughter Yes I do think your're right sad as it is:(

Squeegle Yes that's what I think you'll fine on any internet forum people will say things on line that'd they'd never say to your face. OLD it's an extension of that issue.

Phew, glad I was making sense!

Destinys I agree with you re the web exposing all kinds of weirdos...re OLD and I'm staggered by some of what they come out with, it's as if OLD gives them a green card to act the weird guy....

Destinysdaughter

Couldn't agree more. OLD (Tinder) has made me quite cynical and on my guard, which is a shame as all of my previous relationships have been easy and stress free, with no games or second guessing. It's exhausting.