New account because I can't NC for the life of me.
Background: 'D'P and I have DD, 11 months. Unplanned baby at a 'bad time' ( last year of uni for him, mid dissertation). When DD was 10 days old, he kissed someone else. I found out, but we worked through it as I put it down to the stress of a new baby-big changes in life. A few months later, I found out he'd been using chat sites to talk to other women and even paid for them. Again, I brushed over it because it was easier than accepting he's a pig and dealing with a split. I come from a single parent family and have never wanted that for DD. Since then, everything's been fine. Not perfect, but I assumed this is just what life after a baby is like.
So, last night he went out for a colleagues birthday. Comes back at 1am and was very drunk so I put up the sofa bed. His phone was in the room and I don't know why but I looked at it. Turns out he's been looking at local hook up sites and KIK(?) local sites too.
I need to end this, don't i? For DD's sake and for mine too. I'm scared, it means everything changes. We're meant to be moving back in with my parents in December for two years so he can do his masters and give us a chance to save for a deposit on a house. I haven't told him I know yet, I don't know how to or what to say. Our tenancy runs out in December, and I've just sent out family invites to DD's first birthday party.
I'm not angry or sad or surprised, really. Which says everything, doesn't it?