AIBU to think my partner is out of order for complaining about the quality of his orgasm?

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Without being too graphic, my OH said that I'd ruined the moment/sex for him last night as I pulled away/rolled over half way through his big O thinking he'd finished. He's also becoming obsessed with using sex toys every time, in particular an extender. Despite me telling him it is slightly painful and that he really just bought it for his own pleasure, I feel obliged to go along with it to please him. Our relationship is already on rocky ground, so I don't know what to do.

What's an extender?

Sounds awful to me.

If you rolled off on purpose knowing he wasn't done then yabu but you didn't so yanbu.

No matter how rocky things are an amazing sex life can't plaster over the cracks. Don't do anything you feel uncomfortable with. If he complains it's his own tough luck.

Despite me telling him it is slightly painful and that he really just bought it for his own pleasure, I feel obliged to go along with it to please him.

This is really wrong.

Our relationship is already on rocky ground, so I don't know what to do

I don't say this lightly, but please leave this abusive, selfish twat.

He's happy for you to endure pain for his sexual gratification? He's awful.

for you OP. You don't have to live like this.

YANBU. And you shouldn't be feeling you have to do something you don't like sexual ly, regardless of the state of your relationship.

Who cares about the quality of his orgasm when you feel obliged to put up with unwanted discomfort to please him.

Get rid of him.

Get an extender that extends him out the door, then shut it.

Is it one of these? Never knew they existed! Op, if you aren't enjoying it, don't do it. I would also say, fix your other issues first before sex otherwise it leads to resentment

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Crikey. He sounds charming.
And I'm deleting my internet history now.

What is it Fug? I'm in a country that blocks naughty sites.

Just googled it.

That looks errrrrm, interesting
You shouldn't do anything that makes you uncomfortable & no, amazing sex will not fix your relationship.

Wow, never knew about them, that aside he's being an arse !!

Jesus, what a catch

So he insists on using toys that hurt, your relationship is on rocky ground and you feel that you have to go along with his wishes?

Get rid - seriously, you can do so much better

You so don't need this shit in your life OP - he sounds selfish and self serving and as a pp said - extend his ass right out the door!

Noone should EVER feel obliged, pressured, emotionally bullied etc into doing ANYTHING they don't want to do.

Tell the selfish jackass to go toss in the bathroom if he's unhappy.

Yes please, my apologies. It's best of in relationships section

Whys he want this dick extender for a bit lacking perhaps?. Can't see the point of the contraption myself!. Sounds like he and thee need to talk more and screw less;!.

That looks painful. Does he watch too much porn or something?

Slaggy it's like a hollow dildo to put your cock in to make bigger. How does he feel anything though?!

Never heard of an extender before and cant see how a man would get pleasure from it (looks like a very very thick condom which I would think reduced sensation), unless he get pleasure from your discomfort .

Don't do anything you don't want to do, especially if it hurts/makes you uncomfortable. I would be very concerned that his feelings for you have reached a level that he is being this disrespectful to you during sex.

Thanks Fugg I just winced and crossed my legs! Fail to see how it would be fun for a bloke.

OP you definitely shouldn't be doing anything you find sore or unpleasant. Does he watch a lot of porn?

We got sent one of these to work. I have no idea why. I suspect someone may have ordered it and forgotten, but I'd never heard of them before.

Amongst a day of hilarious emails offering it to different members of staff, I discovered that it grips quite tight when it's on, to keep it on I suppose, so that's presumably where the male pleasure comes from. It's a bit like a plastic deathgrip.

For women, they are just going with bigger = better, which isn't always true.

It's odd because I got the impression they are usually bought my men to please their wife/girlfriend/partner, and most would be happy to ditch it if it wasn't necessary. I reckon 99.9% would throw it away if it hurt...

I second WeAllHaveWings about whether your relationship is so rocky that he doesn't really have feelings for you anymore, and that's coming across as him just using you as a receptacle for sex.

I'm going to have to ask my mates on this, as I thought I had come across must things. I can't for the life of me, see why a bloke would want to wear one of these (unless it's for his partner). He trades the natural feel of a woman for a sheath of plastic . Weird.

Thinking about it, it's even more weird. How does the man get the motion he requires on his penis, if it's insulated by this contraption.