AIBU to think my partner is out of order for complaining about the quality of his orgasm?

[infinitiff1980]

Without being too graphic, my OH said that I'd ruined the moment/sex for him last night as I pulled away/rolled over half way through his big O thinking he'd finished. He's also becoming obsessed with using sex toys every time, in particular an extender. Despite me telling him it is slightly painful and that he really just bought it for his own pleasure, I feel obliged to go along with it to please him. Our relationship is already on rocky ground, so I don't know what to do.

DrMorbius Was wondering that too Dr re the right sort of friction, its bad enough with conkerdoms let alone that contraption.

I reckon he must have some other odd issues and this is just a symptom.

Yanbu to not want to use the toy

Yabu to move away before he's finished - it's a very frustrating feeling, and not hard to feel if he's finished or not!

Why in the hell would someone want a orbits extender if their partner doesn't want one? That's just weird. Are you sure he doesn't gain pleasure from inflicting pain upon others?

Bobbitt. It's the way to go

An orbits extender

Eurgh. Had no idea these existed. Sounds like you need to talk to your h, OP...

Do I dare Google what an extender is?!

Agree totally with DrMorbius ! If he has a small penis, I would say well done for trying to please you better, BUT as soon as you said you preferred him without this, he should have thrown it away and been pleased/relieved. But he hasn't, which is really odd.

A slight diversion but has anyone actually read the extender reviews on that site? The amount of men saying how their wives eyes lit up, it's almost unbelievable.

I think they're mistaking 'lit up with incredulous horror' for desire. Just no. If you are telling him this hurts and he still expects to do it, that's totally out of order.