Online guy sent an awful photo...

[Tomfoolerywot]

Been chatting to a lovely guy online for the last couple of weeks. Things were going great and he has been sending lots of pics which made him look fab.

However last night he sent one of him in a more natural smiling pose and it sent dread coursing through me! He looked so different. I can't get it out of my head and am berating myself for being so shallow...but maybe that's what he'll look like when we meet at the end of the month?

I'm so horrid but I really miss fancying him :( what should I do?

Thanks, that's really sensible. I'm still up for meeting him and seeing how things go. It really could go either way!

We all have photos that make us look weird. If he looks decent in all but that one, he'll probably look good in real life.

I look bloody awful in photos and definitely look better in the flesh. DP is the same. I certainly wouldn't pick him online dating Best to see the chap in person as per previous posters advice.

Meet asap and find out.

I am the most unphotogenic people you could meet but no too shabby in real life.

A friend of mine looks fab in her fb profile pics...

Person not people!

Lol okay. He just has this stock expression in his other photos which makes me suspicious.

Worst comes to worst he's a fantastic conversationalist!

Best to meet the fella ASAP, OP. I chatted Wed/Thur/Fri to a lovely sounding and fab looking chap.

Met up with him in real life - he was AWFUL!!!

That's the thing with OLD - it's all in your head until you meet. I look at pics, and often have literally NO idea if I could ever fancy any of them. Because it's so unreal. Apart from the ones who are clearly gross or knobheads, of course....

You sound awfully over invested... Remember you've never met this fella.

Photos are static, in RL faces are very mobile, constantly changing and altering as the person talks, smiles, frowns, nods, laughs, eats etc.
If you've like him so far, give him a chance, you might really like the face you meet.

if his photos are a mixed bag then I'd meet up with him once. see how it goes.

aww still meet him!

my dh often looks completely different shit in pics but he is FIT

:D

oh and I went on a date with someone I had met OD once, and he was mega fit in his pics, and in RL, but the chemistry just wasn't there.

so can work the other way too! good luck! and keep us posted

Total honesty. My OH - who I met online - sent a photo and it was so so unflattering it turned me off. I still agreed to meet him because we shared a lot of interests and if anything I'd have found a new friend.

Turned out the angle was to blame and for a guy on the chubbier side he is seriously hot hehe

Its really not shallow at all to be turned off by someone.

however my really shallow thing is teeth. If my OH had bad teeth (I can work with many things but rotten/black/brown teeth is my line and I do not cross it) I'd not have taken it further. eugh! no thanks.

I think most people look better in real life than they do in their photos thankfully. I would give him a chance.

Yes, my mum and I were commenting on my cousin's new boyfriend. Every photo of him on Facebook he has the same expression. It's a weird smile where you can see his bottom teeth as well as his top teeth. It's very odd. I can't wait to see him in real life to see what he actually looks like.

Good luck with your date. I hope there is some chemistry there.

My oh had 3 pics on pof when we first started chatting and two of them had me cringing. The third was him at a halloween party. I still fancied him in real life, the man just looks awful in 9/10 photos ever taken of him! Give him a chance.

I look terrible in photos. My best mate looks like a supermodel.

In reality, we are kind of similar levels of attractiveness I would say. both had our fair share of successes in our youth

Attractiveness is just about looks, it's about warmth and humour and chemistry. Perhaps best to meet fairly sharpish though in case that photo is bang on

isn't just about looks that should say!

My lovely DP once sent me a photo very early on that had me He was sending me a kiss, but it was all VERY odd - - looking-- .

He's gorgeous and I adore the bones of him 2.5 years on

Wish I could cross things out effectively...

I met with one guy who looked a LOT better in his picture.

OTOH I dated a guy for a few months who I nearly passed over because his main picture looked a bit miserable (the male equivalent of a woman with a pout) but his second pic was smiley go I have him a go and had a nice time til it fizzled out.