Can some one cheat on you in a fwb situation

[jesy]

Simple question , if you and your friends with benefits mate agree that it just sex until they find the one is it cheating if they date some one else and not tell you or just a bit wrong

Jesy is this you or one of your mates?

My anecdotal experience is that very few people genuinely have a FWB situation from both sides.

In my 20s, I had for a while. We'd go out as friends (cinema, or round for dinner etc) then have sex. I didn't know whether he was dating, I didn't ask. When he said he'd met someone so no more sex, just cinema, I was genuinely excited and wanted to hear about her. That passed. Then it was my turn. And the sauce wasn't good for goose and gander - he was sulky!

If this is you, and you're upset, you didn't truly see this as friends who have sex.

brokenhearted55a your ex sounds very disgusting in his mentality.

He does not want you and you only, but doesn't want you having anyone else.

I hope he is completely cut from your life now.

You can do better and you have one up on him because you have a good heart.

I personally think FWB only works if you've no emotional feeling to that person and for me what is the point in sex if not.

Yes, very much agreed.

And very often one is more overly invested.

Going from the women I know who have been hurt by FWB, they all chose men they actually wanted to date or be with.

Instant hurt when sex did not bring about their partner's interest in the way they hoped.

I suspect that poor woman is less well off now.

You, on the other hand, are far better off with someone who plays with the mind and heart out of your life.

I am sorry he behaved in this way.

He will sadly for her.

It is normal.

You miss who he pretended to be

I suspect that different people have different ideas about what FwB is.
I suspect as no two people are alike, neither are two FwB set ups.

I also think that many people are quite prepared to "cheat" at all sorts of things.

I think that if someone says its just sex until I meet someone, they should stick to that and not hide this new information from the person they are in a FwB situation with. But I suspect that many go on dates and have sex and don't tell. That is cheating, yes because cheating is deceit. The act of having sex with someone else isn't what constitutes cheating, breaking your word is.

If someone says its just sex and I shall date/have sex with other people, then it would be impossible to cheat.

I'm in college and me and this guy started off as friends just seeing eachother everyday spending time at my house. Really getting to know eachother. Had lil arguments from here and there. But we both contributed. I'm a Scorpio he's an Aquarius total opposite. But he insisted we were attracted to eachother. Before we left for college we started having sex it was OK. He came fast alot. But he insisted it was because I make him nervous.. Soon as we got to school he started acting different. He was hanging around people that prolli talk about me. Then he never wanted me to sleep at his dorm. The I accused him of getting me in drama with girls. But turns out I was wrong and was over reacting. So we were growing apart. I started drinking heavy and smoking weed alot. But one night i got FUCKED Up and have sex with another guy. Now he wont even hug or kiss me. But still wants to have sex occasionally. He says we hurt eachother too much we could never be friends. But along those lines before that he was pushing me away I tried and tried to make it work he called it being deseprate he even said that even having sex won't get him back like what did he expect me to do? That was my really good friend now I feel like its gone cus I had sex with some guy when we basically weren't even togethe anymore now he hates me

I think unless you know your own mind and are comfortable being up front and assertive, FWB won't work. Its very unlikely to work for people who play silly games.
I don't think you can cheat within a FWB situation. You've both actively chosen to not be in a relationship with each other, therefore it's unreasonable to expect them to be 'faithful' to you.

kaiglizzy1 you need to forget this guy.

You cheated, he cannot forgive.

He pisses around shagging but won't take you back.

Better to step away now.

Actually were you in a relationship?

It sounds like FWB in which case you did not cheat.

The rest stands, forget this boy.

kaiglizzy1, he's a chancing knob! Makes me laugh that he reckons he comes too fast with you because you make him nervous - really? Think that one through - sad, sad manchild.

Like others have said - forget him, head up high and ignore, ignore, ignore.
Good luck to you.