How do I make Him love me again?

[Kellyxxxx14]

Basically overheard oh convo to his sister and he said "I just don't love Kelly anymore"
I'm heartbroken we have a 6 month old girl.
He is still here.
He must still love me a little bit or he would of left by now.
Do I try harder? Cook a nice meal?buy him a present?
What did I do wrong?

Before our daughter was born I found texts on his phone to another woman.
I didn't mention them to him I just hoped it was maybe just a phase.
He is either at work or here so nothing has happened.
I guess I tried to brush it under the carpet.

We argue but doesn't everybody.

How often do you argue, and what are the arguments about? DP and I often have a good debate about trivial things, but have an argument about once or twice a year about important stuff.

"Before our daughter was born I found texts on his phone to another woman."

Kelly love...come on. You need more than a man who maybe cheats, who said he didn't love you and broke up with you, and who now doesn't love you again.

The saddest part is you didn't go apeshit or demand explanations for the texts. You just accepted it. Kelly...think about it. In 20 years time, if your daughter was seeking your advice on this same situation, what would you say to her? Chin up xx

No, everybody doesn't argue.

It's likely he is staying as he knows, as a man, he stands little chance of residency of his child and its a big thing realising leaving means you won't get to see your own child every day.

A baby doenst bring people closer together where the relationship was already rocky, maybe he feels he was trapped. Have you ever talked about it?

You're an adult and can cope on your own if that's where life leads. You need to talk, little point in you both being unhappy. Counselling may help.

He spends most of the time in the garage messing about with the car.
He hates his job,I think it baby hadn't of came along we would be over by now.
We split the day before I found out I was pregnant then sorted things out.
I don't know how to make him happy.
I try my hardest with him but can't seem to make him happy.
It feels like he is here out of duty than anything else.

We argue probably all the time.
Over stupid things.
He is miserable all the time with me or drunk.
Only time he smiles is when he is holding daughter or talking about her.

This isn't going to end well and I think you know it. Please, start to work on your confidence, self esteem and dependancy issues. You need to be a strong role model for your little one and allowing someone else to have such power over you is seriously dangerous for you and your child.

Respect yourself. No-one else will until you do.