Here's the story:
DH is from Liverpool and all his family are down there. We are in Central Scotland. It's his Mum and Dad's 40th Wedding anniversary mid-July and they are having a big party.
DH and I don't drive so DH suggested to me that he gets the bus to Liverpool for the party and travels back the next day. I said it probably wasn't a good idea to leave me alone for 48 hours in mid-July as the baby is due on 6th August and our DS was a week early.
I've been having problems with this pregnancy and haven't been feeling too great. I already had a trip to the labour ward and was admitted at 24wks with a bad kidney infection. I really don't want left alone with ds (3) either in case something happens. My parents live a good 30-45min drive away too so I really would be on my own.
He then said I was right and he wouldn't go. BUT he made sure he expressed to me just HOW disappointed he was and just how much bad timing it is and just how much he misses his parents and would love the opportunity to go. So he said he would try to think of a way he could get to the party!!
That was 2 days ago. Today on the phone I said to him that I really didn't want him to leave me. He said again that he knew that and was just hoping that something would transpire to allow him to go!
I got really offended and asked him where his priorities lay. He answered that of course I was his priority, but that his Parents anniversary meant alot to him and that it would be their only Ruby wedding blah blah blah. I pointed out that it might be his only chance to see this child being born and to be there for me if something happens.
He said I was over reacting and that I was just looking for an argument (a favourite putdown of his). I pointed out that he has made me feel like a burden, or some kind of obligation he HAS to fulfil, but would rather not.
Of course he doesn't understand. He thinks the issue is clearcut... he's not going.... so what am I moaning about. Well I'm 'moaning' as it seems he clearly would RATHER be at the party and has been quite open in expressing his disappointment at the fact that I might go into labour then.
I know he's disappointed, but did he really have to make me feel as though I'm making him stay here. He knew all along that he couldn't go so why tell me he was going??? Only to make me say "I'd rather you didn't"?? Now I'm the bad guy.
Sorry this is long and rambling.... I'm upset. I put the phone down after he told me for the 20th time that I was being stupid.
Why can't he see why I'm offended?