What is this mans issue. Loads of seedy rumours.

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Does he want me? He looks at me loads, I think he's interested.

EXCEPT

I'm hearing loads of worrying stuff I.e we all thought he was single rumour has it he isn't he's in a secret relationship with someone we know but because of their work situation they're keeping it very quiet. Could be a rumour though.

He has a reputation for being into swinging!! sending cock shots and having a wandering eye. Was on POF when with his last girlfriend but hasn't been seen on it since being with current one (might not actually be with her though!) is divorced but not sure of back story there.

I'm not stupid enough to listen to all these rumours and take them as gospel. He's in his 40s single and still alright looking, I'm single again and wondering if I should move it past him looking at me on to a bit more.

Do you think rumours have to start somewhere or is it just nonsense to be ignored.

goingtobeawesome beat me to it.
How old are you?

Not desperate. I'm mid forties! Out of the dating game for a while with 2 marriages behind me! Really haven't dated much

Don't shit on your own doorstep.

Go on pof. Find someone outside your workplace. Don't scrape the bottom of the barrel.

I don't work with him!

Wow!

Really haven't dated much

No surprises there. Come on love, engage brain yeah ?

Ok lol. He's not an option then?

Lol. He shouldnt be, no. Lol.

Could i suggest acquiring some standards?

Perhaps write yourself a list of qualities you think the person who is worthy of you should possess. Being definitely single should be top of the list. The word 'seedy' shouldn't be on it

Nope

He's really nice though! Honestly! Don't want to write someone off for possibly made up rumours.

I heard that Ched Evans is "really nice"

Do you want to shag him ?

Honey, he hasnt even said he is interested in you! Write him off there are literally billions of men in the world. Lots are DEFINITELY single. This man is not your only option. Seriously. Forget him, find other nice single men. If he is interested he will make himself available to you (an by that I mean single!)

A person can be nice and have an open relationship, enjoy swinging, etc. It's equally possible that this man is single and would like to date you, or that he is not single but has a wandering eye (though isn't going to do more than flirt mildly), or that he isn't actually interested in anything more than being part of your circle of friends, except that you are desperate and therefore read POSSIBLE NEW LOVER into any interaction with a moderately attractive man that doesn't involve him running away screaming.

I'm sorry you are feeling so down on yourself that this man seems to be the perfect boyfriend for you.

Certainly not my type

But explain, HOW do you even have this information that he sends cock shots? HOW????

I've sent a suggestive photo or two in my time as it happens - and I'm lovely.

But I just can't work out how you've had this conversation with anyone

That's what i mean. People are spreading rumours about him that I've heard. Obviously something is amiss.

"People" though? Who has told you, and how do they claim to know?
You don't even work with him, how has it come up that someone has said "oh, X sends cock shots" ?

I can't go into too much detail. He's well known in our small area due to his work, people know him, people know her.

They're repeating gossip. None of them know him outside of his job.

Read the thread back to yourself op. You sound like you are in 6th form. Forget him and move on to someone without all this backstory. I look at everyone I talk to. Its pretty rude not to.

I think maybe only Jeremy Kyle could call this one.

Why am I thinking I've heard this before... From Vicky Pollard?

Surely you deserve better than someone whose reputation precedes him?

Yep to JK.