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At the weekend who gets up with the kids?

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SmileysPeople · 02/12/2006 08:59

I'm such a lazy cow, DH is much better at getting up than me, it's nearly always him, with me surfacibg about an hour later.
This morning tho it's me as Dh up in the night with DS2 (wetting the bed), I feel very efficient and wifey, will take him a cup of tea now to complete my attempt at 1950's Domestic Goddess routine.
Am I the worst? Or just the luckiest?

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2nervesnapartridgeinapeartree · 02/12/2006 09:02

Luckiest I think.

If that was us, it would have been me getting up in the night and the morning!

My DH claims he just doesn't hear them crying

TeeCee · 02/12/2006 09:02

We both get up together and have breakfast with the kids unless one of us has been out the night before then that person gets to lie-in. It's pretty much shared equally.

Furball · 02/12/2006 09:03

me - normally awake before anyone anyway and can't lie in bed these days

JinglePrunes · 02/12/2006 09:03

I get a lie-in on a Saturday usually. Then DP goes back to bed for a bit.
Swap round on a Sunday.
We both get up through the week.

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SmileysPeople · 02/12/2006 09:05

TeeCee your scenario is what I always PLAN to do but then the morning comes and I just CAN'T get up. I thrash about moaning like I'm going to die.
Pathetic I know but DH humours me

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SHHHHsantaiscoming · 02/12/2006 10:30

Im a sahm mum and although dh works long hours during the week he only really gets to see dd some nights for around 15 mins..So he usually gets up with dd at w/e (In fact he lies awake till she wakes..Not like me at all!!)
BUT I do follow and help out but must admit I do try and take a back seat at w/e to allow dh time to bond more with dd and being 31 weeks pregnant it helps me massivly.

I think we are lucky smiley as friends of ours are not like us at all and its up to the woman to do it all..night wakes as well .

ComeOyefaithfulVeneer · 02/12/2006 10:34

In theory one has a lie in saturday, the other sunday. In practice it is generally me as I am a light sleeper whereas dh wouldn't be disturbed by a full blown earthquake so he rarely hears the children. Plus I don't sleep well anyway. This morning despite the fact that the children stayed at MIL last night (as dh and I are both sick) I was awake at 6am. DH is still asleep.

tc58 · 02/12/2006 11:36

It always used to me, every day, and all the nights too and mine didn't sleep through until they were 3. I put on a brave face but it was a festering resentment and soured our relationship. If you are the luckiest be very grateful. If you are the worst then take warning...

Mummymonster · 02/12/2006 12:01

Lucky you Smiley

I'm good on mornings due tgo early commutes to the office prior to pregnancy. Regardless tho 99.9% of the time it's lil ole me who gets up with DS, even when ill health was overwhelming me, the DS shift was mine. When the DS shift is passed to DH, it's hardly a favour as DS arrives in the bedroom requiring washing, teeth cleaning and the night time nappy changing.

Mind you, this morning DH released DS from his bedroom prison and changed the pooey nappy, so after 3 years he is getting better. So mustn't grumble (washing, dental hygiene and dressing left to me tho)

Rookietherednosedreindeer · 02/12/2006 13:17

We take turns at the weekend and also for occasional night wakings but the night time stuff is more through accident than design, I wear earplugs to block DHs snoring so he tends to hear DS first.

I used to do most of the weekend mornings until I approached it quite assertively and said Which weekend lie in would you like and since then it has worked out rather well.

Who looks after DS for the rest of the weekend unless I physically leave the house, well I'm sure you know the answer to that one.

Judy1234 · 02/12/2006 17:09

I have 365 days a year with the children as their father chooses not to have them to stay with him so he gest 365 days a year lies in if he wants. When we were together we both got up because we had things to do.

Olihan · 02/12/2006 17:14

Dh and I take it in turns for the weekend mornings and night wakings. Since I've been pg he lets me lie in slightly more often and will probably do most of the weekend mornings once dc3 arrives and I'm bf through the night. He's a real star about it, I have to say, although I think it's partly self preservation as I am NOT good company when I'm over tired .

sunnysideup · 02/12/2006 17:26

We take turns, I have a lie in on Sat and DH on Sun, or vice versa. It's only fair!

I think we would actually DIE without these weekly lie ins as ds is and always has been an early riser!

sunnysideup · 02/12/2006 17:27

God Xenia, your kids never get to stay with their dad? How incredibly sad. What a lot they are all missing out on

sasa15 · 02/12/2006 17:32

I always get up first and make breakfast for everyone!!!
Dh also often get tea in the bed!!!

he's better in the afternoon....

iota · 02/12/2006 17:38

neither of us - the kids fend for themselves

CorrieDale · 02/12/2006 17:48

We always used to take it in turns - me on Sat, DH on Sun. Now I'm pregnant, DH does it (though I always have to get up for 20 mins or so to give DS a feed).

anniemac · 03/12/2006 01:37

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Quootiepie · 03/12/2006 01:40

I had my first lie in when DS was 5 months recently though, everyday (DH off work) ive been lying in because for some reason ive been beyond tired... but he goes back Monday so lord knows what ill do!

FrostyTheSnowMarsLady · 03/12/2006 01:41

The bigger kids look after the smaller ones. Finally!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

sallystrawberry · 03/12/2006 01:47

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aliceband · 03/12/2006 01:58

me, it's always me ;( apart from... mother's day!

Sobernoel · 03/12/2006 07:19

Me. Every weekend I ask dh to do one of the 7am starts and he always says yes but when it comes to it he is deeply asleep and I wake up. It just seems practical for me to do the breakfasts and the go back to bed with a cup of tea and a magazine. Once I'm awake I can't go back to sleep [getting old emoticon]

The payback is that I often go for a sleep at about 4pm and dh does the arsenic hour shift. I've stopped being resentful (dh never ever got up during the night and it drove me mad) now that the dds can be left to their own devices once they have had breakfast.

iota · 03/12/2006 07:28

I'm up and the kids are still asleep

SpookyMadMerryChristmasMummy · 03/12/2006 07:33

Me. Always. DH is usually working till some silly hour.. although if he comes home at getting up time then he leaves me in bed and extra hour and does the dd's breakfast......

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