Sorry to be the bearer of bad news regarding MrsC.

[WellWhoKnew]

Sorry folks - I'm bearing bad news.

MrsC aka TheFormidableMrsC has decided to go get a job and build herself a fantabulous career - at the grand old age of 40 something. Just like that - 'cos it's that easy, innit!

MrsC has told her eldest (not yet 18) to go find somewhere to live on her apprenticeship wage and put her little one into a children's home all because she wants to live an independent, self-respecting life: free of state-benefits, child/spousal maintenance (as if they are freely forthcoming), vomit, bed-time routines, homework, preparing school-uniform, laundry and cooking for hungry children and school opening/closing times. Not to mention the fact that there's only ever one shoe in the right place and she's dog-tired trying to determine the place of t'other one.

So she's given up parenting. As of now.

Just in case, you're not fathoming this, here's a depiction:

Also, she's decided to 'pimp out' her daughter to ensure that her elderly care home fees can be paid when the time comes, just in case her career doesn't take off and she can't build up a pension for herself like every other person does.

If you didn't laugh about responsibility, you'd cry.

And having a 50 page form to fill in to justify a carer's allowance of £34 a week for her son, who is not adapting well to moving schools, she's just about ready for all alternatives.

BREAKING NEWS: Father of child has decided mother of child must not know whether or not he turns up to collect child from school for his two hour contact session.

So she sits by phone waiting for school to call.

If you didn't laugh. You'd cry.

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???

I haven't a clue what any of that is about.

You can't make this crap up. There are just too many things wrong with that 'demand ' to put into words.

Sending lots of love and thoughts to Mrs C.

I'm guessing MrsC has reached that well known place - Tethers End, Kingie1 and Topseyt.

Is this something to do with Eastenders?

Sorry OP but I haven't a clue what you are on about.

PP suggests you can't make this crap up I'm not sure I agree.

I'm baffled.

Exsqueeze me?

Yeahhh I'm pretty sure you can't just put a child into a children's home

Erm...?

FFS, this is Relationships not AIBU. The Op has a history here and if you don't get it, then there is no need to post. relationships is a place for support.

I sincerely hope she is okay. I've felt total and utter despair in the past and it is not at all nice :(

I think MrsC is not ok. I think MrsC is having an awful time. And I wish MrsC all the best wishes and luck and support she needs.

I'm sorry MrsC

Get through it, one breath at a time, if you can.

I'm sorry to hear your news, WWK, but I'm not at all surprised to learn that, due to the unreasonable demands placed on her by a flawed system and her even more flawed ex, MrsC has abdicated all responsibiity for her dc until 7 am or earlier if ds or dd should need her in the night.

As is to be expected of a woman with her rare talents, the Formidable MrsC has come up with laudably creative solutions to her problems and I have no doubt she'll flourish in whatever career she chooses to embark on while continuing to raise her dc in the most exemplary manner.

Sometimes l wish not every thread went to active

I hope things improve MrsC

Holy fuckety fuck, how in the name of God did any of that get passed? (Obviously not the first bits of black humour)

HOW? HOW does the execrable fuckwit get away with not telling her when he's picking his son up?

So so sorry, MrsC - any advance on moving a LONG way away yet?

Thank God for you, WWK. You're her sanity in this insane world she's having to live in (for now).

Tell her that when life gives her lemons, she should make lemonade...and try to find someone whose life has given them vodka.

I need to catch up the last week but am sending much love to MrsC.

If you're reading, my lovely, you're not called The Formidable for nothing. Please remember that.

There aren't enough adequate adjectives to describe that waste of human skin.

Send Mrs C my love and best wishes.

I don't know what I would like to send HIM. How can you do that to a boy with ASD, who needs routine and predictability. It is criminal.

Can't this crazy decision be challenged by staff who actually work with her DS & understand ASD?
When will he stop using these chn as weapons to hurt Mrs C with?
I think that this decision needs an urgent meeting to review its harmful impact on the child.
So sorry for you

I don't know Mrs C. But have been in her shoes. And they cripple you after a bit.

Umny hugs MrsC. Don't let the bastards beat you.

If I understand it correctly, I'd just pick up my son from school, regardless.
The twat would have to say he was picking up his son, or forgoes contact.
I'm doing something similar. :(
And if he does say he picks him up and doesn't, then the school should be ringing him and contacting the police.

MrsC must be utterly exhausted.

Why do people have to reply with ??? etc. Surely it's obvious from the tone it's someone posting that is going through shit. Even if you know nothing about their situation then surely those responses are never going to help. I've never heard of her either but could tell it was a person needing support.

I think I agree Lweji - but I guess it depends on what the court-agreed contact arrangement actually says, in terms of how constrained MrsC is by it. Still fucking outrageous if he gets away with it though.

Nice to see exMrC still putting his child first.

stay strong MrsC