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Sorry to be the bearer of bad news regarding MrsC.

90 replies

WellWhoKnew · 01/10/2015 01:03

Sorry folks - I'm bearing bad news.

MrsC aka TheFormidableMrsC has decided to go get a job and build herself a fantabulous career - at the grand old age of 40 something. Just like that - 'cos it's that easy, innit!

MrsC has told her eldest (not yet 18) to go find somewhere to live on her apprenticeship wage and put her little one into a children's home all because she wants to live an independent, self-respecting life: free of state-benefits, child/spousal maintenance (as if they are freely forthcoming), vomit, bed-time routines, homework, preparing school-uniform, laundry and cooking for hungry children and school opening/closing times. Not to mention the fact that there's only ever one shoe in the right place and she's dog-tired trying to determine the place of t'other one.

So she's given up parenting. As of now.

Just in case, you're not fathoming this, here's a depiction:

Also, she's decided to 'pimp out' her daughter to ensure that her elderly care home fees can be paid when the time comes, just in case her career doesn't take off and she can't build up a pension for herself like every other person does.

If you didn't laugh about responsibility, you'd cry.

And having a 50 page form to fill in to justify a carer's allowance of £34 a week for her son, who is not adapting well to moving schools, she's just about ready for all alternatives.

BREAKING NEWS: Father of child has decided mother of child must not know whether or not he turns up to collect child from school for his two hour contact session.

So she sits by phone waiting for school to call.

If you didn't laugh. You'd cry.

OP posts:
iamaboveandBeyond · 01/10/2015 11:22

If i'm misreading or misinterpreting anything, i apologise in advance - i have had very little sleep and am not well Blush

TheFormidableMrsC · 01/10/2015 11:43

Hello! Have just come across this. I should point out that WWK is being a superbly supportive friend as ever and her humour must not be misinterpreted! I imagine those who don't know my backstory will be wondering what the hell is going on!!

I find things to be so bloody difficult still, trying to get on with your life, being tortured over child support by your ExH, having to jump through a million hoops (40 pages worth in fact) to ensure you can continue to care properly for your ASD child, having to remain NC with said child's father because he will rush to the police at every given opportunity and scream "harassment" if I so much as look in his direction. It is draining and difficult. Parenting alone is hard enough and I take my hat off to every single person who does it, parenting alone with a nightmare ex and a vile OW in the background is challenging beyond belief. I am fearful for the ongoing damage that they seem unable to fathom that they are inflicting on my son. I do wonder how they justify what they have done to him. It's heartbreaking that two people can be so without any moral compass or guilt at all. I will never understand it.

WWK and I had a long telephone conversation last night and frankly it ended with fits of giggles and prompted this post by her I believe. Please rest assured that both DS and DD remain safe with me and nobody's going into a home yet. I might do in the not so distant future though Smile.

Thanks for all your ongoing good wishes and supportive messages. One day this has to stop, doesn't it?!

KOKO Flowers

StayWithMe · 01/10/2015 11:45

Awk Mrs C. You don't know me but I've read some of your posts. I'm sorry your feeling so bad. I hope things improve for you soon. No practical help, I know, but I hope it gives you some comfort to know a lot of people on here are giving you virtual support. Flowers

Lweji · 01/10/2015 12:00

Wishing you all the best and good to know you are still keeping your sense of humour.

Skiptonlass · 01/10/2015 12:03

Father of child has decided mother of child must not know whether or not he turns up to collect child from school for his two hour contact session

I'm not sure if there's a legal set of definitions for unreasonable behaviour, but if there is, this should be added to them. Please tell me someone is on this?? What on earth is supposed to happen either way??

Mrs. C, I can only add to the chorus of support for you here. What this pair have put you and your children through is beyond despicable. My thoughts are with you.

FanOfSpam · 01/10/2015 12:04

I've no idea what this is about but please know, MrsC, that you have lots of love for you around here Thanks

hellsbellsmelons · 01/10/2015 12:15

God bless her. You always think things can't get any worse but for her the shit just keeps coming.
She's formidable though.
Send her our love.

ThumbWitchesAbroad · 01/10/2015 12:36

Hello MrsC - glad you've popped up on here too :)

Sorry that the ongoing situation is still so utterly abysmal with wankstain though. :( Angry

Vermin like him ought to be legally exterminable, IMO.

LadyTmalia · 01/10/2015 12:48

I opened this thread very cautiously, thinking the worst! Bad Bad WWK

MsC Surely he cannot dictate that? Who was he asking not to tell you? The school. Thats not his decision?
I feel so very sorry for your little boy, at least he has a fabby mum.
Happy 17th to your daughter too :D

Maryz · 01/10/2015 13:02

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wideboy26 · 01/10/2015 13:21

I've been out on my bike since posting above. I do a lot of thinking while I'm cycling. I'm a man, so I hope I may be forgiven if I have failed to understand any sub-text in the OP, but was it just a way of saying that Mrs C (for whom I have the utmost sympathy and respect) is at the end of her tether? Having followed Mrs C's story from the beginning, I can't believe it has come to this and I feel I may have made a bit of an @rse of myself for taking the OP at face value. However, it seems that others may also have done so, in which case could somebody clarify what is going on for the benefit of the less perceptive among us.

wideboy26 · 01/10/2015 13:27

Ah! Just seen Mrs C's post. Phew. As you were. (Sadly, very much so in her case).

Huge supportive wishes to you, Mrs C.

Mattberryistoast · 01/10/2015 13:38

Is this not a chums thread in OTBT ? It's obviously not meant for public consumption - those reading it who are not "in the know" are obviously not supposed to ask questions about what they don't understand. So why have it out in the open with such a cryptic and dramatic title?

Why not just have a cliquey thread that people won't accidentally barge through in disbelief/confusion?

Genuine question, not being arsey.

DoorToTheRiver · 01/10/2015 13:49

I must have missed the unwritten rule on MN - Thou must post on every thread I look at!

I have opened plenty of threads on here and thought WTF and haven't posted. Common sense?

Even if you don't know the back story it's clear from the latter part of WellWhoKnew's OP there is an upsetting back story.

Sending best wishes to you MrsC and I hope the fucker gets the comeuppance he deserves. Flowers

ThumbWitchesAbroad · 01/10/2015 13:55

One of the issues MrsC has is that the wankstain ex stalks her through MN, so best not to mention too much too often in case it's used against her. Just so you know.

MoonSandwich · 01/10/2015 14:10

her through MN, so best not to mention too much too often in case it's used against her. Just so you know.

...So wouldn't the OP be better to post this in OTBT -

The best way to make something interesting is to be cryptic and emotive. I'm glad MrsC thinks it was posted in jest but I'm not sure it's ever funny or advisable to talk about pimping out 17 year old girls especially when there is such a huge back story.

MoonSandwich · 01/10/2015 14:11

Sorry, I missed out the first bit of the quote but you get what I mean.

RealHuman · 01/10/2015 14:35

I eventually realised that Thumbwitch (after I posted) but either way its obvious it's not a joke/drunk thread.

ShowOfHands · 01/10/2015 14:46

Oh thank heavens.

Like Maryz (wotcha mate), I thought this was going to be a death.

I wish everybody involved the very best. I'm not sure I know enough of the back story to fully understand who or what but I do hope things get better.

Darnley · 01/10/2015 17:26

Hi MrsC.
Sorry to hear that you are still going through it.

Get in touch if you want/need to scream, hurl abuse etc.

rumbleinthrjungle · 01/10/2015 18:11

That man really is a prize arse. You'd think he had better things to do than screw around further with the child he's already done so much to mess up already.

Much sympathy Mrs C. Thanks

pointythings · 01/10/2015 18:33

He's the boil that never stops giving, isn't he?
I'd be going through the courts to get contact nailed down with a nail through his dick. I can't imagine any judge would be impressed with this demand.

Rachel0Greep · 01/10/2015 19:05

Just wishing you all the best MrsC Flowers.

MrsCorbyn · 01/10/2015 19:15

Given my username that bloody scared me

HexBramble · 02/10/2015 06:17

The man is an Arsehole and is playing the police like puppets. He only cares about hurting MrsC regardless of how
he does it. If Arsehole and police are reading and we know you have form then re-read my first two sentences.