Sleeping with other women's men ---

[Abundatia]

A close friend sleeps with several married men at the moment. The men are not in open marriages. My friend's view is that the mens' marriages are none of her business.

Is she right?

Except she knows she's contributing to a deception and a betrayal. Yes, but it is the man who made the vow not to shag anyone else, and it's the man who broke the vow. She made no such vow.

You can't argue you're not married so your actions absolve you from any moral reprehension. Nobody is arguing that. What's been said is 'you're not married so you can't technically commit adultery'. He's committing adultery, she isn't. Morality is a different question.

Morality is part of the equation. Adultery is one betrayal. Immorality is another. All part of the same betrayal. And skanky behaviour on all parts.

Why are some so keen to absolve unmarried people of rotten behaviour?

Yes those who take the marriage vows are vile.

And those who don't think it's a problem to shag or pursue or date married people are also skanks.

Is it the modern way?

Adultery is immoral. So it's not a separate issue.

When you actively take a part in something that will in almost all probablity cause deep pain and suffering to another human being, not just for a week but affect them for years to come, you should grow up and accept your responsibilty for your part in that.

If say you and a mate decide you need some cash, and you collude together to rob someone, just because it's your friend that does it doesn't mean you have no blame whatsoever when you decide to help spend the money too.

No way could I respect her as a person let alone as a friend!

I think everyone's saying the same thing with a different emphasis tbh. There are various levels of not doing the right thing on the part of the married person and the unmarried one. The married one is doing something they promised not to and is betraying someone, and the single one is a party to that although not committing the act themself.

Going back to the OP's question, what's being asked is: "My friend's view is that the mens' marriages are none of her business." Now this I 100% agree with, because if my dh fucked someone else, my marriage would still be absolutely none of her business, and if she suddenly thought she had some business knowing anything about it, she'd be wrong.