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The Brave Babes Battle Bus - Waving Goodbye To Summer Nights, Sipping Mocktails.

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Mouseface · 08/09/2015 20:07

Hello, I'm Mouse Welcome to the Bus. :)

Well, it would appear that Autumn is on it's way I have the heating on and can't wait to use the log burner.... shhh! Grin

So, who are we? We're just like you. Married, single, divorced, lots of children or no children, working or a SAHM, it doesn't matter, we all breathe the same air.....

We're just trying to live our lives on the Bus, like you do each day. Well, except for one thing...

I know don't start my day with a swig, or seven, from a litre bottle of vodka (choose your poison) any longer.

And that's what has kept me here, for years now. And no doubt many more to come. Reading the stories of others struggles, wanting to say "I feel like that" or "I do that too!" but being to ashamed to be the first to put your hand up.

Well, let me reassure you here and now, there's not much that we haven't read about on here or done ourselves over the years.

We've laughed at stories of haphazard nights out, we've cried at the loss of loved ones and we've shared the pain that only an alcoholic knows when all that they want is to STOP!

Push the pause button, get off the ride, shut the door, bury yourself under the duvet for days. We've all felt that sickening feeling in our gut that makes us want to curl up and hide forever. And we've shared it all on here.

You see I don't know you and you don't know me, so we're just words on a screen to each other. Eventually, you'll get to know me more and I you, and the other fantastic Babes too, some will stay, some leave us, then some come back.

One thing I can PROMISE - here you are safe, here you won't be judged, turned away (unless you're not genuine) and we even have a huge stock of Opal Fruits but that's all down to Ma.

So, if you think we're you're kind of lovely bunch of people to help you stop drinking, slow down, hold your hand while you decide what to do, then come find a seat!

OUR MOST RECENT THREAD

AND A VERY SOBERING READ, THAT LEAD TO THE BIRTH OF THE THREADS THAT FOLLOWED

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obrigada · 22/09/2015 10:17

Morning babes, just checking in. Thankfully I have been good on the alcohol front, drink seems to hit me too quick these days and doesn't leave my system till late the next morning despite the fact that I haven't even drank a large quantity of it!

Bus very quiet, hope everyone is ok?

NoAprilFool · 22/09/2015 11:11

Hello!

The site was down last night - I'm not sure how long it was out for.

Desparate to know what ma has been up to!

Fairenuff · 22/09/2015 18:41

I think the site was down all everning, hope everyone is ok? Day 22 here, can't believe how fast the days are going.

dementedma · 22/09/2015 20:04

Hey all.??

Fairenuff · 22/09/2015 21:08

Hey ma. Where is everyone? Let's put out a trail of opal fruits and sit very, very quietly. See if anyone turns up...

AnneBoleynsHead · 22/09/2015 21:12

Hi all, enjoyed catching up with the last few day's posts, been a bit busy. Didn't even know that the site was down yesterday. Well done to those of you who've managed to stay AF! I'm back to day 1 after a long boring negative meeting yesterday evening - didn't have a full bottle, but over half. What happened to my promise not to drink during the week?! How do you all wind down mentally without a drink? Now it's September I've got more meetings coming up and need to learn how to come home and be able to sleep without a drink or four! Thanks.

aliasjoey · 22/09/2015 21:23

khalisi the inlaws were only here for afternoon tea, but they managed to criticise almost every aspect of our parenting in 2 hours! It was excruciating...

I no longer drink in their company, and find that means my temper is better controlled... The downside is I spend the time gritting my teeth and promising myself i can have a drink if we make it through without killing them Hmm

Sirenetta · 22/09/2015 21:46

Hi everyone. I wanted to come on yesterday and, yep, found that the site was down. It had been a while.

I have made it to day 25. I'm not really finding weekdays that hard now; it's more the classic trigger events that get me hopping crazy. We moved house last Sat. I mean - it doesn't get more trigger-y than that, right? It actually didn't go that badly but still - a VERY long day. I could almost taste the cold beer but instead poured vast quantities of water down gullet and eventually the feeling passed. Think maybe the wine/beer witch is often actually hunger or "real" thirst - thanks you babes who advised always having good soft drinks to hand.

Started cycle commuting yesterday from the new house. A lot of new, mostly good, mostly tiring.

Anyone else nearly making it a month and feeling similar?

evilpopstar · 22/09/2015 22:24

Day 2 here. Dad still in hospital with hospital acquired infection, DD2 has croup. It rained all day. Things can only get better!

evilpopstar · 22/09/2015 22:38

Anyone else got the heating on ? #smallcomforts

Sirenetta · 23/09/2015 02:49

Popstar - air conditioning still, where I am ;)

Khalisi · 23/09/2015 07:56

FINALLY!!!

Good morning, Babes.

That was weird, yesterday. And this morning I had problems until I finally thought to login before going to relationships.

Good that you made it through, alias. A friend was telling me about her ex-MIL and that got me thinking about mine and I must say, just so happy that that is one person less I'd ever have to worry about.

Sirenetta, you lucky, lucky bird! Grin

evilpopstar, Already burning through the wood pile, so to speak. And heating on. Well, at least we had a great summer! Wink

Have a good one, Babes!

babyjane1 · 23/09/2015 12:29

OMG just lost a mega huge post, NC'd everyone and poured my heart out and it's bloody gone, actual tears here!!!!! Xxxxx

obrigada · 23/09/2015 15:15

Huge hugs Baby, that is so frustrating xx

evilpopstar · 23/09/2015 18:09

Baby - a synopsis will do- we want to hear it! Here have a Brew

NoAprilFool · 24/09/2015 15:46

I'm on Day 18. Feeling good.
So why have I ordered a case of wine?

Answers on a postcard to BecauseI'mABloodyIdiot

SmallFox · 24/09/2015 21:38

Small and feeble wave from the sidecar. Finding it SO hard this time round. I get a day or two under my belt and then it all goes to pot. So predictable, and frankly so boring.

I am too dispirited to read back but wanted to say well done to some of the newer babes who from my v quick skim read of this page seem to be doing really well. You are fab and you are in a great place here. Hi to all of you, and a special wave to Spanna who is the best NC'er ever.

dementedma · 24/09/2015 21:51

Huddles up with small in the sidecar

evilpopstar · 24/09/2015 22:13

Room for me in sidecar? Can never get past day 4!

Sirenetta · 25/09/2015 00:11

I'm on day 27. On a long distance train home from business trip and people are drinking beer all around me and guess what - it is OK. Still haven't had a conversation about this in real life with anyone except DH but I do have one friend who (I think) quit as part of a big diet/lifestyle change (I think I posted about him before - he looks so well). He got in touch today saying let's go for lunch - so replied "yes, and let's talk about alcohol" and he said sure. So I'm excited to have a sober friend but I know I need to not get too excited in case he's started again or starting, or generally has a different idea about what not drinking means. It'll be interesting anyway.

Keep going, everyone! x

Fairenuff · 25/09/2015 17:36

Day 25 and feeling very positive. I'm thinking about Sober October already as I'm well focussed on my diet and want to keep the momentum going.

Hope the ww isn't bothering anyone too much this Friday evening. Remember HALT and try to vary your routine if you're struggling x

babyjane1 · 25/09/2015 18:24

Hi babes,

faire you are sounding fab, how's the weight loss going? Are you following a plan? Xxx

spanna you are my hero? I remember all your posts sounding sad, defeated and lethargic and baby look at you now. I'm also super touched that you have so many lovely kind comments for everyone else, your a great gal xxx

khalisi I could feel your pride bursting out of your post about dp's race. I'm so happy for you but it's ok for it to take a while to give yourself up completely to your newfound happiness, it's not a race, enjoy this lovely time in your life, you so deserve this xxxx

pop I hope your Dad is doing ok, I think your coping with all this stress magnificently, stay strong babe.

ma Go on spill, what's with cryptic posts, whatever or whoever you up to, friends should always share xxx

I'm not really boingy yet but I've been using the boots no7 range, hot cloth cleanser then toner then eye cream and moisturiser and I swear my skin looks much more youthful!!! I also take my time massaging them all In and it kills some time in the evening and feels nicely indulgent. I'm back at slimming world and am going to make an effort to dress nicely and do my make up every day. I got a horn toot the other day, without even having to stand for ages in the middle of the road!!!

Hugs for all xxxx

dementedma · 25/09/2015 19:03

Well done all. Keep at it. I'm knackered and a bit down in the dumps. Got a big presentation to do tomorrow in front of some senior military people. Feel sick at the thought

Mouseface · 25/09/2015 23:00

I'm in hospital and have been since Tuesday. I've got pneumonia Sad and feel awful. I can barely talk, let alone breathe. I can't wait to get out of this ward, as my mum died of cancer in the lungs, but pneumonia killed her in the end. I can feel death all around me. It's dark and lonely here.

Anyway, I just wanted you all to know that I'm thinking of you all and willing you on!! I miss the warmth and safety of the Bus and you dear friends.

Mouse xxx

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dementedma · 26/09/2015 09:09

Oh mouse hope you get out of there soon and feel better