Do you have a partner wish list?

[ThomasRichard]

Not the names of partners you might like! but the attributes you find attractive and either found or look for in a partner? I'm just about summoning up the courage to think about dating and it seems to be one of the standard questions for OD so I was wondering what MNers have on their wish lists.

Mine is something like:

• kindness
• intelligence
• integrity
• organisation
• drive

Easy going
Good humoured
Caring
Honest
Not a porn addict.

I am married, but DH is none of those things.

Not abusive
Not bigoted
No addictions
No serious money problems
Honest
Considerate
Reasonably intelligent
Reasonably driven and passionate about what he does

I used to say...

Kind
Honest
Good looking
Dresses smart
No chest hair
Decisive

However im married now and dh...

Has a very different dress sense to what i liked
Loads of chest hair
Hates deciding anything!
Is good looking but in a totally different way to what i used to find attractive!
He is kind and honest though :-)

Theres the perfect guy and then theres the right guy :-)

Yes, it just has Ian somerhalders name on it!

I think he's taken lunar

I could write a very long list but as kitkat says, half of it could go out of the window if someone unexpected just 'clicks'. I'm not bothered too much about specific physical features - my taste seems to run to balding, average-looking guys - but there are red lines and thungs that I definitely don't find attractive, like scruffiness.

Kind and generous of spirit
Good sense of humour
Engaged in a career (not "yeah it pays the bills but I'd rather be elsewhere")
Interested in having really good, mutually satisfying sex, on a frequent basis

TBH I'm not in the market for a serious partner anyway. But I look for the above traits in anyone I want to build a relationship with, whether it's friendship, romantic or just FWB!

Although I don't require my friends to be interested in having sex with me

Kind and generous of spirit
Good sense of humour
Engaged in a career (not "yeah it pays the bills but I'd rather be elsewhere")
Interested in having really good, mutually satisfying sex, on a frequent basis

Great list. Does kind etc Inc loyal and honest? Would on my list.

Would also like shared morals/politics. Not exactly but broadly similar.

Pulse :)

Calmness
Reliability
Upfront
Decent sex drive
Not an anger junkie.

• Driven
• Thoughtful
• Intelligent & opinionated but also able to listen to, & hear others
• Dark & good looking (I know it's shallow, but blonde/ginger don't do it for me)
• Not overweight (exH put on 10st during our marriage (and was miserably grumpy/abusive with it) & it was the death knell)
• Shit hot at sex
• Independent
• Fun
• Interested in life & interesting to be with
• Loyal & committed
• Honest & open
• Responsible (inc with money)
• Smells amazing
• Must dress well

(Rather extensive, but most of these exH was/is not as discovered over 20 yrs)

Not set in their ways and open to adventures
Someone who has stories and anecdotes to share
Passionate and sensitive in Bed, able to be raunchy and mucky and also romantic and gentle (depending on the mood!!)
Makes me laugh
Laughs at me
Intelligent
Plenty of hair

That's my perfect man....and that's my DP . Finally got my right fit :)

Happy
Fun
Loyal and responsible
Honest
Clean
Good Work Ethic
Normal weight and looks after their health
No addictions
Smart
Nice

Physically attractive (to me). This can vary as I have quite broad tastes, but definitely not someone overweight.

Takes their health seriously; looks after themselves mentally and physically

Kind and considerate

Reliable

Open minded

Laid back

Honest

Shares my sence of humour

In my last relationship I dropped a few criteria and they drove me mad. So if it's important then don't drop it.
I thought I was being too choosy about earnings then spent 3 years paying for everything with promises from ex that he would step up and never did!

Absolute minimum essential criteria - taller than me
treat me with respect
extremely disirable criteria - Hair

Abi - really? Suggest you talk to MN hq. This forum isn't to help you or anyone else do research.

I think it is very unlikely that I would ever have another partner but if I did I;d like him to be

Kind and thoughtful
Very open and honest
high level of integrity and social conscience
Funny
Love outdoors - walking, gardening,wandering along the beach etc.
Must love animals and be happy to have a house full of dogs.
Physically I don't really care - black curly hair would be a bonus, but at my age he'd most likely be bald

kind, thoughtful and articulate

(and smells nice)

I'm amazed no one has written anything about emotional intelligence.

Ex was everything on paper but was so bad for me. Definitely not a match.

For me; emotionally aware, thoughtful, loyal, hard working, caring and reliable.

very good point chelle - and after my last relationship that should have been top of my list !

Oooh Hippo you're spot on with smells nice! That will have to go on my list, can't be doing with any stinkers!

I had a boyfriend who was my best friend but I didn't fancy him so it didn't work.

Then I had a boyfriend who I fancied but wasn't any kind of friend and that didn't work.

So I wished for a boyfriend who would be a best friend and who I also fancied like mad and now it works :)