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dry september

139 replies

raspberrytart · 01/09/2015 11:10

Good Morning.Wondered if there was a dry september thread going?Thanks

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pointythings · 09/09/2015 21:45

Everyone is doing so well!!!

I wanted to snatch those smoked trout vol au vents off the screen and nosh them.

BathtimeFunkster · 09/09/2015 21:57

Me too!

Yum.

CiderwithBuda · 09/09/2015 23:31

4lbs off this morning! Very happy.

Now in Dublin at my Dads. Have had fish and chips. Bread. Crisps. And wine. Forgot to tell my dad not to buy any. 3 glasses. Really enjoyed it. And came to bed to avoid drinking any more.

Oh well. Have a horrible situation ongoing with a family member and I got ambushed tonight when they arrived at my dads unexpectedly. So three glasses was pretty good!

CiderwithBuda · 09/09/2015 23:33

Oh - flew from bristol airport this afternoon and went to Starbucks for a cup of tea rather than be tempted by wine in the bar restaurant. Except Starbucks sell wine now! I stuck to tea but was amazed. Why would you go to Starbucks for a glass of wine when there is a bar? Why do Starbucks feel the need to serve wine?.

fadingblonde1 · 10/09/2015 12:56

Wow well done on the four pounds off cider! Into double figures today, first time in a long time.

MuseumOfHam · 10/09/2015 18:03

Well done on the weight loss. I've lost nothing, but I'm pretty much giving myself free rein on sugar and processed crap as compensation. I'll have to wean myself off that after the month's over. I am craving wine today but have an exercise class later so hopefully I'll get over that feeling, and not pop into the shop on the way back.

I've started saying to myself what day I'm on in a Big Brother commentary voice. 'Day 12'. I've never even watched Big Brother.

justwondering72 · 10/09/2015 18:14

First big test... Book club tonight aka wine and food night. Plus I screwed up my timing and now have half an hour to waste before turning up... It's a sunny, warm evening, the bars and the lure of a swift half are calling loudly! Be strong.

raspberrytart · 10/09/2015 19:53

Evening everyone. Your all doing great!
Had a very productive day tidying in the garden amd have a car full of stuff for the tip. Very therapeutic. Its been lovely weather here todaytoday,perfect excuse for a cold wine.
Drinking loads of water and sleeping better,haven't had the usual afternoon 40 winks today, which makes me feel worse. Also keeping off the sugary stuff in prep for Sunday!Well done on all your weight loss too!

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BathtimeFunkster · 10/09/2015 20:33

Day 10 here too.

I have also lost 4lbs, which puts me into healthy BMI range.

I'm doing a super healthy September. I want to get back into some kind of shape after a boozy, chompy kind of summer.

Just back from a run. Really pushed myself this evening. Wasn't terribly enjoyable, but it's done now.

Well done everybody.

1/3 of the way there!

pointythings · 10/09/2015 20:35

I'm really fancying wine tonight, which hacks me off. I haven't had midweek cravings for a long time. Am going to blame the PMS and resist staunchly.

justwondering72 · 11/09/2015 12:10

So, what did I learn from my first alcohol-free night out? Usually at this book group, there's plenty of wine, food, gossip as well as talking about books.

I realised that, in fact, I drink way more and faster than nearly anyone else there. On average, they slowly drink maybe 2-3 glasses, then switch to water, or stretch the last wine right out. In the past, I'm first to finish a glass, and waiting impatiently for the next one to be poured. And getting frustrated when everyone else is so slow to drink up. Oh, and I usually would have at least 2 glasses with DH before setting of...

Oh dear it sounds awful when I say it like that. I'm such a greedy drinker. I'm starting to think I should be on the real Dry thread for total abstainers. But we shall see what October brings I guess.

Something I've realised is that lots of people I know talk about being big drinkers... but really, compared to me, they aren't. The friends in this group talk about how much wine they get through, and how it's a wine club, not a book club. But, in all honesty, they don't drink that much at all. Something we talked about upthread was the normalising of drinking, and I think my 'normal' is way out of whack with most people I know. Like, 2-3 glasses of wine? That's just an aperitif before dinner (and more wine), on a 'normal' night for me and DH!

But overall I had a really good time, wine-free, and felt just fine this morning. I was able to get to sleep at a reasonable hour when I got home (usually I'd be awake with buzzing wine-brain for a couple hours), and slept well.

How's everyone else doing when they go out with drinking company?

BathtimeFunkster · 11/09/2015 12:22

I haven't been out yet, except to a networking thing.

I'm not feeling too sociable at the moment for various reasons. Enjoying being at home.

I suppose I haven't really had any challenges yet.

MuseumOfHam · 11/09/2015 18:14

I haven't been out yet either. No planned 'drinking' social events until 2 October, which is why I'm really going for this. I've considered it in the past but always had something on which has made me not even start. I ask admiring the pragmatic approach of those of you with planned events, giving yourself dispensations. I will learn from you for the future, that one night doesn't mean you're bust and might as well give up.

CiderwithBuda · 12/09/2015 09:14

Not overly sure this is a victory but it felt like one - am in Dublin at my Dad's and had given myself dispensation for a night out on Thursday but I also had a few glasses of wine on Wednesday after a stressful encounter with a family member. So last night at about 9pm I poured a glass of wine and had that and then another. Poured a third and had a mouthful but decided that one or two glasses is acceptable but the third was just greed so I poured it down the sink. So although I have had wine on two nights where I shouldn't it was controlled. And the bottle is not empty!

Am out again tonight but starting back dry tomorrow.

Justwondering72 - well done for sticking to it at your book club. I'm the same - drink more and faster than anyone else. They all drink lots of water as well as wine but I just drink wine!

BathtimeFunkster · 12/09/2015 09:24

I think if it feels like a victory, then it is a victory.

Also, finding your off switch once you've started drinking might be harder than just not drinking.

It is for me - I have great willpower, I know I won't drink anything before October, but once I'm drinking again I'll have the same unwillingness to have just a single glass.

CiderwithBuda · 12/09/2015 10:44

I think you are right Bathtime. I've always said I don't have an off switch. Maybe I'm developing one! Maybe I do and just ignore it.

justwondering72 · 15/09/2015 08:42

It's gone a bit quiet on here... How's everyone getting on? I'm still sticking with it, DH has now lost 2 kilos since the start of the month but I have not! Bah humbug.

Officially half way through now ;-)

Something I've noticed is that by not drinking in the evenings, I suddenly have all this spare time - and I don't know what to do with it ! I don't have any hobbies, except possibly wine. Don't really want to just watch telly. I do some voluntary work which is interesting and takes up time, but that isn't exactly relaxing or creative. Knitting / crocheting / colouring ... Hmm.

CiderwithBuda · 15/09/2015 10:43

I have been rubbish. Big night out on Saturday and then finished off two glasses left in bottle on Sunday. Came back home yesterday and had wine last night. Paid dearly for it as woke at 12.50 and could not get back to sleep!

Am totally back at it today. DH is here so it's not so easy but I managed it last week so should be able to. He is away a lot from next week and that is always easier. He drives me to drink! Grin.

fadingblonde1 · 15/09/2015 11:33

I haven't done so well over the weekend either. I had over half a bottle of red on friday - which was foul so not even sure why I bothered - and then a large glass on Saturday night. Saturday I had a headache all day and I've eaten rubbish since, it's like drinking the wine set off awful sugar cravings.

On a more positive note I've drank about a quarter of what I normally would over two weeks :)

MuseumOfHam · 16/09/2015 17:50

I'm still going. Over halfway. The coming weekend is the danger zone, with it being a holiday weekend here, but I'll just think about how disappointed in myself I'll be if I cave, and how much zingier I'll be if I don't.

I have agreed a new working pattern from next month which will involve earlier starts, so I'm going to try to keep this up after September. One of my bad habits when I'm drinking is sitting up too late, and feeling tired and jaded the next day, and that's going to be hellish on my new working pattern.

CiderwithBuda · 27/09/2015 10:40

All a bit quiet on here! Where is everyone?

I've not been great but not given up completely.

Wasn't great the week DH was here but got back on it on Monday. Dry Mon/Tues/Wed. DH back and I had wine on Thursday night but we only had one bottle of red left so just shared that. Friday I had far too much. Was supposed to be picking DS up from a party so had it in my head I wouldn't be drinking. He didn't go to party but I still didn't drink. To DH's surprise!

A dry Saturday night at home hasn't happened for a long time!

Not sure about tonight though!

ThroughThickAndThin01 · 27/09/2015 10:59

I've been rubbish at it. I'm going for Sober October and this time tell everyone I'm doing it which will make me commit.

Missymoomoo197936 · 27/09/2015 11:53

Will you be staying on this thread or making a new 1? I really need to sort my drinking habits out and Sober October sounds just the thing I need to do, it's wine I drink, had a bottle last night then had a vodka, just greed and no need for it, I'm sick of it now and not enjoying it.

ThroughThickAndThin01 · 27/09/2015 12:21

Missy, I think I'll start a new thread, new start for everyone? I had about a bottle and a half last night which is an awful lot. It was spread over quite a few hours, but still, not good. I don't drink every day or even most days, but when I do, Dh and I share at least a bottle of wine but more and more frequently two. Sober October would be great for a detox and developing better habits for me. (Which Dry SEptember should have been Confused). However! This time I'll do it.

Missymoomoo197936 · 27/09/2015 12:26

Thanks Through, I'm determined to do it, I hate this feeling, I need to develop better habits too.

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