Don't want to sound a drama queen but it bothers me...
There is a 50 y.o. man living in the flat I'm in at the moment. He is a lodger temporarily. Landlady asked me if I mind, I didn't as long as person doesn't disturb me. So he moved in.
He is a friend of her friend. They were good, talking and he was offering her coffee in the evening and so on...
Then the landlady once invited me to the kitchen, we had a little chat and I went back toy room.
He once asked me if I want something from the shop, so i ordered some chocolates. I paid for them. Next time he goes to shop and buys again, I haven't asked. I offer money he says it's a gift and he will be upset if I don't take. I took although didn't want to... And from MN I know that it's abuse to say if you don't take I will be upset.
He then started to knock my door... First time: "I don't remember how washing machine works, can you show me?" Although he made some repair work to the WM couple of days before that. That eve I was emotional and in tears, he saw my face when I opened the door, didn't say "ohsorry you are not in the right mood, I will come later" so I went and showed how to use it. I had no idea that the LL actually showed him few times how to use the WM.
Next time again knocking in the door after 10pm, I opened the door, he explained it saying he doesn't understand why WM doesn't work even if he did everything right. I went to the kitchen with him and pushed the door of the WM harder and it started working.
Before the second knocking I found myself under the analysis when I was hanging my washing on the rope outside, and I felt uncomfortable. He was watching me from my back. Before that I was in the kitchen having a dinner and felt bad when I was washing my plate, because he was asking some questions about what I eat and how much I eat. I eat healthy, and I'm skinny girl. I'm not fond of comments about my body. Hate it!
So I spoke about his knocking habit with my LL and he told him to not to do it anymore. She went for holidays and I'm on my own with him in the flat. I tried to be as invisible as possible. When he is in, I try not to come out from the room.
So on Wednesday I came home after work and saw my post in the flat, he collected it. I went into my room and opened letters, etc. Felt bad for not thanking him, opened the door and said thank you. That's all what I have done.
At 12:30 am I heard someone is calling me by my name. I didn't realise that I fell asleep and opened the door with still sleeping eyes just to see him staying in front of my door. When I asked him what he replied "you left the light on in your room" I closed the door, turned the light off but wasn't able to sleep all night. The door was closed, he didn't know if i was sleeping or not...
My questions are:
- Why does someone in the middle of the night calls the other person (he barely knows) just to tell her that the light is on?
- What does he want from me?
- He is no one to me to care for me so much..., so why?
My LL never knocked my door and said that I left the light on, even if she would get up to use the bathroom in theirs le of the night. She knows sometimes I stay late and do some work/reading...
It made me feel sick to disturb someone like that at 12:30 am, and call my name loudly. We have neighbours downstairs, and me and my LL usually don't make noise after 10pm.
- What is his problem?