DH just grabbed his phone off me..

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So, the football is on and my phone is out of battery. iPad gone missing so I said to DH that I would use his phone to browse. We know each others passcodes, leave phones lying around etc. However, he jumped up, all panicked and grabbed the phone off me, saying he needed to send an email. (??) I was like wtf?

Then he backtracked and said he was getting me a present he didn't want me see. Rubbish, it's not my birthday. I went mad and stormed upstairs saying he needed to come up with something better than that. He followed me and then said he was planning to take me away in September. I just don't believe him. I could just tell he was lying. I am now sulking in the bedroom. I am assuming porn or another woman? No history of suspicious behaviour. Doesn't stay out late.

I don't know how to find out why he was so panicked and I don't just want to sweep this under the carpet. What do I do?

I know I saw the poem typo! Made me chuckle. If only it was poem sites..

Good tip about App Store, will have a look.

He has taken me away before, not really a surprise though.

He wouldn't get away with going away for a weekend, it would have to be during the week of it was with another woman!

Other than being super vigilant I am not sure what else I can do..?

Oh dear, how horrible. This sort pf thing is torture because you just don't know what to believe.

If I were you, I'd actually be relieved if it was only port, as my mind would be doing overtime; webcam activities? Dating profile? OW? etc

Hopefully it's just the point though.

I think he'll make sure that he gets something booked now for September to cover his tracks.

Yes porn seems the best outcome at the moment!

Surely he understands his reaction was odd if there was nothing to hide. Now the 'alleged' surprise is out in the open he has no reason to be odd about his phone anymore, so I would insist that he leaves his phone around so you can freely pick it up and use it whenever you want. If he's reluctant or jumpy, you obviously have a problem. If he isn't, he's probably deleted all the evidence and told her not to text anymore!

Is there an app that can recover text messages and internet browsing history? At least you'll know what you're dealing with, since he won't tell you.

Why do you regularly check his phone? That's really not ok. For all those saying that the op should have the right to check his phone if he has nothing to hide, no she doesn't.

There is another thread on here currently where an op's dp is reading her texts because he feels she's changed. He is, in fact, a controlling twat, and the op has been told to ltb.

I have been the one whose ex thought it ok to read everything I was doing. I was under no obligation to prove my innocence, instead I changed all my passwords and showed him nothing. He lost the right to open access to my phone, social media etc the moment he started snooping rather than communicating.

Maybe he was looking up something embarrassing - haemorrhoids or some embarrassing health issue...

I don't have anything to hide but I wouldn't like DH browsing my MN posts and don't look at his phone...

I don't know that its porn.

It could well be the truth about the hotels etc. I'd leave it for now and see what occurs