Maybe the wrong location but here goes anyway. My DS is no doubt like many of the lovely DSs here a wonderful kindhearted and well adjusted young man, made all the more remarkable by the fact his father whom I finally divorced when DS wa 6 was/is a violent aggressive sexist bully with a full on sense of entitlement. I can't take all the credit as DS has made his own way and is 22 and at uni now. I just got the loveliest letter attached to an email from the mother of a girl whom DS tutored for significant periods over Easter and before for her A Levels. This girl who is the daughter of my friend has had a truly horrible time recently as it transpired she was abused as a child by a relative while abroad and since has had a long history of self harming, behavioural issues and unsurprisingly issues relating to men. So ok firstly the girl got a rare A star in her French paper which has her into her first choice uni but what really has.choked me up is what the Mum wrote about how kind my DS was to her and patient and how she has gone from being unable to be in the same room as another man to being on some part of the road to normality and how the Mum sees the kindness and ability to put someone at their ease of DS as being central to this. He is such a gentle goodhearted soul and I'm so very proud of him today and always. He knows about the grade but not about the letter. I just thought to share this.