In short I found some pretty nondescript porn in his browser history...purely by chance. I was upset as it was at odds with the man I thought he was, I would never have knowingly married a misogynist as well he knew. I was also offended as we have daughters and I'm certain he would hate his own gitls to be viewed as objects. To make matters worse he lied to me, which questions my intelligence.
There were no web cams, no sex workers, no sex texts etc...I would never have stayed with him. As it was it caused massive problems and has taken the best part of 2 years to resolve. However it did destroy alot and the emotional intimacy that I had with him is gone.
No one can tell you what to think or feel. Or whether to stay or go. People are entitled to their own opinions on porn however this is your relationship and its your prerogative to not accept it. Don't allow anyone to tell you that your feelings aren't valid or petty.
I think if you stay as things are with things being brushed under the carpet, that you will have lots of unresolved anger, which can make you mentally quite unwell.
Know that you are not alone, you do not have to accept this and what he has done does not simply need forgiving. I had quite alot of counselling after because I felt I had let myself down massively by staying...what I do now is please myself and accept that his choices and actions are his alone...I am not his policeman. He is also very aware what my expectations are and that I would not put myself where I was again.
I'm sorry for the long post, and the spelling errors etc (am on my phone) but I stayed with my dh because we have been together for 20 years and this has been the only dip in the road, I chose to work through it, however if I haf what you have had to deal with there is no way I could continue, regardless.