Does resentment cause divorce?

[Sonia00021]

I resent my husband, borderline dislike/hate him. He's acted like a disgusting horny teenager and not with me but with the Internet. I don't even know half of what he was up to. I now have a terrible fear of this all happening again and I check his phone constantly. I just resent him and when he says he loves me I just look straight through him it's awful.

It was a few month ago now, I bet he would of left! I feel like I want to tell him to leave but I can't it's so hard!

Given everything you have said I'd ask him to go, it doesn't have to be forever and it gives you some breathing space. Also it sets your stall out with regards to your expectations and where your boundaries lie.

I physically cannot go through this all again I fear I'll snap. I cannot be hurt again but he won't talk. He's a nightmare.... I just didn't want to go through another breakup with kids it's awful ....

If you do nothing though the message you send is that he can act as he likes without consequences.

If you feel that you're struggling you should speak to your gp. They are able to refer you for talking therapy which may help you. In the long term though you may find that you hurt yourself more by doing nothing now.

What can I do if he won't listen? I might just tell him to pack and go? I'm so fed up but I don't want this for my kids but I don't want any of that for myself! I feel very sick to the stomach I thought I would get over it

Just makes me trust nothing he does like working late, meant to finish at 9.30.... I fear he's a huge liar!